There are many aspects of attraction that need to be learned and applied. But there is ONE that stands out above everything else, and without it, everything you do will be useless.
This key is RELAXED CONFIDENCE.
If you take note of men with power and high status, MANY of these men possess this quality. Movie stars, rock stars, high profile sportsmen, maybe even your boss. They seem to be totally relaxed and in complete control in social situations. They KNOW without a doubt, that they are hot property and can get ANY woman they want. They KNOW they are THE SHIT!
It is this relaxed confidence that makes women weak at the knees. It is this relaxed confidence that makes these men seem like they are gifted naturals that have all the gorgeous women flocking to them. It’s not their fame or power that is attractive to women, but rather their relaxed confidence and belief in themselves. This is what makes them different from MOST ordinary men.
Have you ever noticed how all the ORDINARY guys behave in social situations? They find it hard to look others in the eye – especially women – they seem fidgety and uptight, they will stand with their hands in their pockets or hold their drinks across their chests, a classic defensive posture. They NEVER look relaxed OR confident and they don’t seem to be enjoying themselves.
These guys will continually go out to bars, parties or social events in the HOPE of getting LUCKY with a woman, yet never realize that their behavior and body language is their downfall. They will have a terrible time, maybe even go from bar to bar, continually having the same experience because they fail to see that their actions are NOT attractive to women.
These are the men who BLAME their lack of fame, money or good looks for their failures with women. They even blame women, saying that all the women are too up themselves, snobby or too high maintenance. It’s not that women are any of these things, most of the time it’s because these guys are just NOT behaving the RIGHT WAY for women to be attracted to them. Instead, women are REPULSED by them.
Maybe you have been or still are one of these guys. That’s ok though, because it’s NEVER too late to change. If you have the desire to learn how to be better at attracting women, then you definitely have the drive and ambition to change who you are.
Now, if you want to enjoy the sort of success with women that only the famous or the naturals seem to be able to have, then start by relaxing and being confident in social situations. Instead of being like all the other lame guys, hanging around in packs for safety, only approaching women when they are drunk and full of dutch courage, start being the guy who has the balls to walk up to ANY woman, look her in the eye and say “Hi”.
Start building friendships and relationships with a wide variety of people. Extend your circle of friends and acquaintance’s. Be relaxed and friendly with EVERYONE. Being a man who can mingle with and be relaxed around a diverse group of people gives everyone the impression you are a person with high social status. This makes you extremely attractive in the eyes of women, especially beautiful women.
By doing this, you will cease to be ordinary, and start to be extraordinary. And being extraordinary is extremely attractive to women. Start visualizing yourself being totally relaxed and confident in ALL social situations. Visualize and practice in your head, being totally relaxed talking to women. ALL WOMEN!
Try joining some groups where women already go, like dance groups, or yoga class, even the gym is a good place to start meeting new people. Not only will you be exposed to new people, but you will also gain new skills and strengths.
It takes practice to become good at anything, and being relaxed and confident in social situations is no different. You need to start somewhere, sometime, and now is just as good a time as any. Remember though, this is just an eyeopener, the tip of the iceberg, something to make you aware of whats needed to start building a new and better you.
In future posts we’ll concentrate on more specific methods and techniques to really help boost your progress. For now, start visualizing having relaxed confidence. Study successful ladies men. Get out there and build new friendships and acquaintances.
Till next time …