3 Killer Methods to Create an Unforgettable First Impression

 

I’m going to share with you 3 KILLER methods that drastically help you make an unforgettable first impression on ANY woman you meet.

These skills are extremely powerful in helping you portray the type of personality that INSTANTLY makes you attractive, interesting and create the perception in their minds that you’re a man with high social value and status.

We’ve all heard over and over again how important first impressions are, especially out in the dating field.

We know that the first thoughts we impress on those we meet and come into contact with are the most critical and have the greatest influence on their perceptions of us. These are the thoughts and emotions that either create an opportunity for greater interaction and a move towards forming a new friendship/relationship, or in killing ANY possiblity of going any further.

But, what makes these first few moments so critical? What do these first several moments have that make them so potent?

Well, whenever we meet someone for the first time, we know absolutely NOTHING about them. Whatever they do or say in those first few moments, we will base our ENTIRE perception of them on those thoughts.

I’m sure you’ve been in many situations where you’ve met someone for the first time and have INSTANTLY been repelled by them.

We all know what it’s like to meet a person who is negative, pessimistic and boring. We can’t wait to get away from them and then when we see them again, we start looking for an escape route.

Why?

Because ALL humans naturally want to enjoy happy, joyous, fun and fulfilling experiences. Negative people do not help us achieve those emotions in our lives.

Yes there are many people who DO NOT “naturally” gravitate towards positive and fulfilling emotions. They cut themselves off from enjoyment and happiness with their negativity and block any good from happening to them.

But, deep down inside each and every one of us, we want to experience feelings of joy and happiness. We want to form relationships that spark feelings of fun and excitement within us.

Which is why we are ALL attracted to people who have the ability to create fun, excitement, happiness, positivity and rewarding experiences in our lives.

So, HOW can YOU go about setting a great first impression?

 

METHOD #1. Be Cool With EVERYONE …. Especially The Men!

It’s vitally important that we are cool with everyone. We need to be able to interact and connect with ALL people. How else can we be popular and portray high social value if we don’t make an effort to befriend, or at least be good to everyone we meet?

Many guys are conditioned to ONLY interact with people they PERCEIVE as cool or attractive. Most of those guys won’t even bother making an effort to get to know women who are less than a 7.

These are guys with LOW value.

Funny thing is, they usually DON’T approach and meet women of lower attractiveness because of their “standards”, yet either CAN’T approach women of higher attractiveness because the girls are “too hot”, or CAN’T attract these women because of their low social value.

They INSTANTLY and unconsciously defeat the whole purpose of meeting new women because of their low social skills and mindset.

And when it comes to other men, these LOW Value Boys think that they need to COMPETE for the attention of women, and either try to “chase” these other men away with their domineering and rude behavior, or resort to violence to try and conquer and “win” their prizes.

They will try to “infiltrate” a “target’s” group and usually through bad behavior, try to chase the men in these groups away from the women they are after. Their attitude is usually one of rudeness, aggressiveness or downright violent.

Not only will this behavior raise the hackles of the males, but it will also SCARE THE WOMEN AWAY!

Women are NEVER pleased by rude men or guys who resort to unprovoked violence. They will NEVER be flattered or comfortable with someone who can’t get along with the men already in their lives.

But like I said, these guys display shockingly low value and are extremely UNATTRACTIVE to women.

So, how do YOU display HIGH value?

Easy, start being “cool” with EVERYONE you meet, especially other men. When you are a high value, confident Alpha Male, other men are no longer competition. They are your allies. A man who has the ability to befriend and get along with other men, and then become a “leader” among those men, is extremely attractive to women.

And a high value man KNOWS the importance of befriending EVERY woman he meets, regardless of beauty and attractiveness.

The more women you meet, the easier it is to display HIGH social value and proof, and therefore, increase your ability to attract and meet women of even higher value, beauty and attractiveness.

Remember that women are attracted to men who are popular and have a high social status, and LOVE to date men who will raise their own social status in the process.

So go out there and be cool with everyone!

 

METHOD #2. Show Genuine Interest!

This would have to be one of the biggest socializing “laws” out there for me. NOTHING is as flattering as having someone give you their undivided attention. Most people are much more interested in their OWN lives than they are in yours.

Which is why it’s so powerful when YOU give someone your undivided attention, and show genuine interest in them and what they’re saying.

You can make more friends in 2 hours by showing a genuine interest in people than you can in 2 years of trying to get them interested in you.

The key is good listening!

Most people fail to make lasting first impressions or form new friendships because they are too busy thinking of what to say next instead of listening to what the other person is SAYING.

And most guys fail miserably because they are either too busy trying to think of something “cool” to say, get out their next witty one-liner or too focused on their end result (sex) to really care about what is really being said.

Listening is ABSOLUTELY CRUCIAL, especially when we’re talking to women.

The subjects we choose to talk about are vitally important as well.

Men LOVE to talk about “man” topics: sports, cars, women, sex! We talk about facts, specifications and performance. We are interested in how things work, rather than how they feel.

Women on the other hand, are NOT interested in talking about our favorite topics. They LOVE to share and experience FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. They show genuine interest in others’ stories and experiences.

So, if you want to make a great first impression on women, start listening better to what they’re trying to say to you and work on forming EMOTIONAL connections.

Show GENUINE INTEREST by LISTENING TO WHAT’S COMING OUT OF THEIR MOUTHS.

 

METHOD #3. Be Inquisitive … Lead The Conversation!

The majority of women are used to guiding and leading conversations. Especially when they’re in the company of boring “nice” guys, or domineering fools.

Women are used to asking a bunch of questions, listening and showing genuine interest in conversations. But they will only do this until they lose interest, or become annoyed at having to do ALL the talking.

Most men make the mistake of trying to dominate conversations with their opinions, statements of facts or talking about topics that women are NOT interested in. And the biggie here is that they don’t give the other person an opportunity to share their thoughts and opinions.

Put simply … They are self-centered. If you want to lose a woman’s interest FAST, be self-centered!

If you want a woman to enjoy talking with you, show her that unlike the other 99% of men out there, you can take an active interest in what she’s saying. Pay attention to the feelings she shares with you when she talks.

Use those “clues” in the things she says to LEAD the conversation. Ask her more questions about her “clues”, and get her to open up even more to you.

Share your thoughts and feelings as well. One-sided conversations are very rarely fulfilling. Although most of us could talk for hours about our passions and interests, women LOVE talking with men who have the ability to COMMUNICATE BACK to them.

The key point is that you DON’T dominate a conversation, OR let her monopolize it.

Make sure you are inquisitive and that you take a lead in the conversation.

 

These three methods can help you make lasting impressions on the women you meet. The great thing about them though, is that they don’t just apply to women; they apply to EVERYONE!

They can be used to make new friends, foster new business relationships, succeed at work, or just to make you more popular overall.

If you can master these crucial social skills, there is NO social situation where you can’t create an unforgettable impression on EVERYONE you meet!

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Picking Up Women: How to Make Easy, Fun Conversation That Leads to Attraction & Sexual Chemistry

There are two main ways in which we communicate with others: non-verbal communication and vocal/verbal communication. You probably already know a little about the non-verbal side of things, such as the types of body language that silently signal someone’s nervous, excited or angry. But how about the more obvious but actually less frequently discussed topic of verbal communication: how what we say and how we say it impacts on our lives and goals?

That’s the subject we’re going to look at today.  Except we’re going to a get a little more specific and delve into how a guy can make easy, fun conversation with a woman, that helps lead to attraction and sexual chemistry between the two of you.

Let’s first get a grasp on a few pieces of background information. First off, how do most men make conversation with a  woman they’re attracted to? What do they do right, wrong or completely miss out from their talks with the opposite sex? The best way to answer these questions is simply to identify the mistakes the majority of men out there make – things every guy, for whatever reason, chooses to do when talking to a girl, that hinder – rather than help – his chances of hooking up with her.

Mistake #1: ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS. Lots of men worry that when they start talking to a girl, she won’t say much back. This outcome, standing there – suffering an awkward, embarrassing silence – is so much of a concern that they ask the girl question after question to avoid it. The reason they bombard her with questions is because they think that the best way of getting and keeping the girl talking is by giving her more and more opportunities to say something, no matter what the topic happens to be. Unfortunately, doing this sends out a very negative message. It actually shows that you’re nervous and would prefer her to do most of the talking, which often turns the woman off completely.

Mistake #2: NEVER SHUTTING UP. This is the opposite scenario to the one above, but happens for the same reason. Some men, scared that the girl they’re talking to will up and leave any second, choose to talk endlessly in an effort to keep their attention. Again, this is immediately obvious as a sign of social inexperience and nervousness.

Mistake #3: BORING HER TO DEATH. It’s not easy talking to a girl who’s beautiful, sexy and usually practically unattainable. So when a guy gets chatting to a girl he really likes, who’s hot and confident, he doesn’t want to mess it up – after all, it might not happen again for ages! So, in an attempt to limit the chance of saying something that might ruin the interaction and thus his chances with her, he subconsciously restricts the topics of conversation he brings up. He talks about work, the weather, sports, current affairs, perhaps bombards her with a few questions on those subjects…and generally doesn’t push the boat out much.

Okay, so they’re 3 of the worst mistakes a guy can make when talking to a girl he likes. So let’s flip the coin and look at what he SHOULD be doing.

Objective #1: PROGRESSIVE QUESTIONING. Choose what questions you ask the girl wisely. You don’t want to throw too many her way too quickly. If you do, you give her too much control over the conversation and don’t provide her with a challenge. So, use progressive questioning – ask her questions that she MUST give a detailed response to. Avoid Yes/No questions and instead quiz her on things that require emotion-packed responses. “Do you come her often?” is a terrible question. “What do you think this place could do to make it feel more lively and fun?” is much better, as it not only requires a more detailed reply than a simple “Yes” or “No,” it also probes the girl on what makes her feel good.

Objective #2: Don’t be afraid to let short pauses punctuate your conversation with a girl. Many men panic when they hear a silence and jump in with another question or statement to fill it. Don’t make the same mistake. A confident, dominant guy – the kind of man women love – isn’t afraid of little pauses, because they’re natural and harmless. He simply, waits a second or two, sips his drink, smiles and goes with the flow.

Objective #3: It’s okay to use common topics of conversation when you first get talking to a girl. But move away from the mundane stuff as quickly as you can and instead choose to tell engaging stories. Describe a great holiday you had, an amazing concert you recently went to…make it positive and interesting and you engage the girl’s emotions and make her want to tell YOU about her own good times. When this happens, instant rapport and sexual chemistry is born.

Rachel Davis is the author of Conversation-King, a guide that teaches men how to attract and seduce women by mastering the art of verbal communication.

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