Confidence … Essential In Attracting Women

When it comes to attracting women, there is one quality that is consistently at the top when women talk about what they want in a man … CONFIDENCE!!

If a man has confidence, it makes him seem POWERFUL, IN CONTROL and DOMINANT.  Women automatically and unconsciously come to the conclusion that he is in CONTROL of himself, KNOWS what he wants and has the BALLS to go and get it.

You see, portraying confidence to a woman has a VERY SPECIAL effect on her.  If a man holds and conducts himself with confidence, she will take notice.  When a man has the confidence to look her in the eyes (something that 90% of men DO NOT do – especially if she is beautiful), while communicating and interacting with her, she subconsciously says to herself – ‘This man is NOT afraid of me.  This man is COMFORTABLE in my presence.  This man has an EQUAL or GREATER value than mine’.

Remember this and understand its importance: Women DO NOT have sex with men who they perceive to have a LOWER VALUE than themselves. They ONLY have sex with men who are EQUAL or SUPERIOR.  Displaying the right type of confidence, can help by-pass a woman’s attempts to screen test and judge you, and show her that you are not intimidated by her at all.  She will deem you as being equal, or even better, perceive you as being superior.  Women WANT and CRAVE to be dominated by a superior man, an Alpha Male.

When women screen men – and they do it ALL the time, EVERY time they meet a man -they do it in a very short space of time.  In fact they do it in a matter of SECONDS.  Women are USED to men hitting on them ALL THE TIME!  It is second nature for them to socially screen men in seconds of meeting them to judge whether they are WORTHY to invest time in.

It’s not just beautiful women either, it’s ALL women.  Even ugly women can, and DO, get their fair share of lovin’. Because they are hit on all the time, they naturally become EXPERTS at determining quickly whether a man measures up or not.  And what are they looking for?


You need to understand that women are looking for a man who is DOMINANT, CONFIDENT, POWERFUL and AUTHORITATIVE. When you hear women say they are looking for a sensitive, caring guy, what they really mean is – ‘I CRAVE to be with a man who is dominant, confident and powerful, who is ALSO sensitive and caring’.  Don’t be fooled into thinking they want men to be JUST sensitive and caring.  They are looking for a perfect BALANCE in a man.

Back to confidence though.  Displaying your confidence by communicating and interacting with her in a relaxed and comfortable manner, you are subconsciously portraying to her that you are NOT afraid of her, and you have an equal or higher value than hers.  This is what she is screening and testing men for – to see if they possess the ability to excite her, interest her, entertain her and dominate her.  Only a confident alpha male has the ability to do that to a woman.

“But, how do I get that sort of confidence?  I don’t have any idea!”, I can hear you saying.  Well good question, because it’s not as easy as saying to yourself “I AM CONFIDENT”, and you will all of a sudden possess it.  But it’s not THAT hard to develop either.

The first thing you need to do, is to START visualizing yourself as a man with the TYPE of confidence that women are attracted to.  That TYPE of confidence is the SUPREME SELF CONFIDENCE that you see ladies men all over the world possessing.  If you lack the sort of confidence you want,FAKE IT till you MAKE IT!  Start by COPYING the body language, posture and mannerisms of  successful ladies men in your area, or watch movies.

Check out movies with great leading men who are suave.  James Bond has to be one of THE most Suave Ladies Men to ever grace the movie screen.  It doesn’t really matter which actor plays him, it’s the characteristics and traits of Bond that they all portray that are important.

Pay attention to the way Bond handles himself with women.  Notice how he ALWAYS looks women directly in the eyes, says things that MOST men are too scared to say and all the while standing there with a cheeky grin on his face.    Notice how he holds himself, ALWAYS cool, calm, composed and self assured, NEVER afraid, timid or indecisive.  Imagine and visualize yourself being this way.

Now check your POSTURE.  How do you stand?  How do you walk?  If you are not feeling very confident, chances are your posture and walking style sucks.  You’re probably slouching, letting your shoulders and chest sag forward, dragging your arms and with your chin tucked in and eyes looking down.  Am I right?

Then change.  Start standing tall, straighten your spine, push your shoulders back, stick your chest out,keep your chin and eyes up and scan your surroundings, but keep it relaxed.  You don’t want to look like one of those insecure, thinks he’s a man, wanna-be tough guys.  It might feel uncomfortable and unnatural to start with – that’s probably because you’re so used to slouching – but trust me, you’ll definitely LOOK better.  But you really should FEEL the difference straight away.  Do you FEEL more powerful, stronger and more manly?

When you walk, keep your posture, and walk slowly and deliberately.  Not so slow you’re just about moving in slow motion, but slow enough that you are not zipping around, looking like you are out of CONTROL.  Women notice these little things, and being out of CONTROL is NOT a good look.  In fact, you should do EVERYTHING in a CONTROLLED, deliberate manner.

When you look around, do it slowly and deliberately.  Once again, eyes that can’t stay still or dart all over the place make you look CRAZY and out of CONTROL.  Notice the BIG emphasis on CONTROL?  Because being in control MATTERS!!  Women are attracted to men who are in CONTROL!!

Working on these things is a good start to developing your confidence.  Practice these for the next couple weeks, try and make a conscious effort to make them part of your daily routine.  Slowly build them into your subconsciousness by doing them every day.  Soon it will become a HABIT and once that happens, it will start to be your natural way of being.

We will focus on some specific techniques to help build your confidence TALKING and INTERACTING with women soon.  For now, just focus on getting your POSTURE, WALKING STYLE, SCANNING YOUR SURROUNDINGS and STUDYING and VISUALIZING the way successful ladies men behave.

Note how you FEEL when you hold yourself properly and try and notice if people TREAT you differently.  Enjoy building your NEW SELF.  Talk again soon.



How To Be Attractive To Women

To begin with, you need to understand WHY women become attracted to certain men.  Once you have come to understand this, then you can more easily implement the proper changes in your personality and character to be more attractive to women.

Let’s start by looking at WHY women find some men extremely attractive, while other men have NO HOPE in hell.  On the surface, two men may SEEM the same.  They have similar physiques, similar looks, they make the same amount of money, drive the same sort of car etc etc.

But when it comes to attracting women, one is WAAYY ahead of the other in ‘the game’.  Why is this, and what are they doing differently?  It’s really quite simple – one possesses and displays attractive qualities and characteristics, and the other doesn’t.  When women become attracted to a man, it’s because he has ‘certain‘ qualities and characteristics that have TRIGGERED that attraction in them.

Women are sub-consciously hard-wired and programmed with an innate desire to mate with the DOMINANT men, the ALPHA MALES in our societies.  This desire has been naturally ingrained in women since the beginning of recorded history, when survival DEPENDED upon the strongest and fittest of the males to protect and provide for the welfare of the group.  By mating with the alphas, women ensured the greatest chance of survival to her offspring and the human race.

In fact, it’s such a natural instinct that most female mammals are programmed this way.  You only need to have a quick look at the many different species in the animal kingdom, and their sexual attraction behavior to see this is true.  Chimpanzees and Baboons are a prime example.  Go ahead, watch a program from Discovery Channel or Animal Kingdom about animal sexual attraction and you will see this for yourself.

The Dominant Alpha Male gets to have ALL the females, while the other males have to resort to tricks and bribery to get sex.  No different to humans really.  How many men do you see, trying to buy, bribe or trick their way into a woman’s life, heart and pants?  Women are NOT attracted to this type of behavior.  Are you one of these men?


Ok, even though we now live in a completely different era, and survival of the human race is no longer dependent on the strongest and fittest men, women are STILL hard-wired and programmed with that innate desire to mate with the strongest dominant males.  Remember, IT IS A NATURAL INSTINCT!

In this day and age though, men no longer NEED to be strong or fit PHYSICALLY (although it doesn’t hurt to be), but we DO NEED to be strong in character and personality.  We need to have the strength of character to follow our OWN hearts, make our OWN decisions, our OWN rules and control our OWN lives in order to have more success with women.

This is what gives a man his DOMINANCE.  It’s his ability to be in CONTROL of himself, and LEAD others that makes him an ALPHA MALE.  You don’t need to be a bully, or domineering, because that is NOT dominant.  That sort of behavior is just INSECURE, NEEDY and WEAK.  You DO need to be strong within yourself, confident and comfortable in who you are, decisive about what you want and have the GUTS to go and get what you want, in order to be a DOMINANT man.

If you are currently allowing women to CONTROL your destiny, or worse, GIVING CONTROL AWAY to the women in your life, then you will be suffering from a serious LACK of attractive characteristics and behavior.


So in order to become more attractive to women, you will need to start developing the strength of character to STAND on your OWN, and lead the way.  This starts with CONFIDENCE.

If you are hoping to have ANY sort of success with women, then it is absolutely ESSENTIAL, to develop your confidence so that you have the personal INNER strength to stand up for what you want.  Nobody will just give you what you want, you MUST have the BALLS to go and get what you want.

But confidence on its own is NOT enough.  There are lots of guys out there who have more than enough confidence, but will lose out to someone who possesses this characteristic every time.  What is it?  INITIATIVE.  This means YOU MUST ALWAYS BE FIRST.  Be first to walk up to a woman and start a conversation, be first to kiss her (without asking), be first to get her number, lead her to the bedroom, be first to initiate sex.  When you are out with a group, stay out in front.  Be FIRST.

In other words – LEAD!!!

You also NEED to start right NOW, being DECISIVE.  Start making decisions.  When someone asks for your input, give it.  If a woman asks what to do, tell her.  Start RIGHT NOW being decisive and making decisions.

DO NOT sit on the fence and say “I don’t care, whatever you want babe”, or “It’s up to you baby, you choose”.  This is WEAK behavior and NOT ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN at all.  Women are NOT attracted to weak men.  “But I’m just being courteous and thinking about what she wants”, I can hear you saying.

NOOO, YOU ARE NOT!!!  You are being WEAK and INDECISIVE, and annoying the fuck out of her.  That’s why BAD-BOYS can ALWAYS get women – because they take control and lead the way.  They know what they want, and they have the confidence to go and get it.  Women are EXCITED by this behaviour, and by THE MAN who behaves this way.

Be strong, be confident, use initiative, be decisive.  BE DOMINANT.  Confidence, Initiative and Decisiveness are some of the most IMPORTANT qualities you will need, to be attractive to women.  They are not the only qualities, but these qualities will lay the foundation to becoming a SUAVE MAN.  If you ever hope to have the sort of success that you dream of, then start developing these qualities.



How to Attract ANY Woman

Imagine … You walk into a crowded bar.  The atmosphere is ELECTRIC.  You can feel the energy surging through your veins.  The room is pumping with heart racing beats and hot, dancing bodies.  Beautiful women are EVERYWHERE.

You work your way around the room, greeting, talking, joking and laughing with a wide variety of friends.  And FLIRTING with beautiful women.  You OWN the room with your powerful, yet relaxed, confident stride and cool, suave behavior.  Women are checking you out – and not just some of them – but ALL of them.  You don’t even have to talk to any of them, you can tell just by the WAY they are looking at you, that you could have ANYONE you wanted.  ANYONE!  You are THE MAN!

How would that make you feel?  Would it make you feel great?  Would you feel you were on top of the world?  Would you feel like you were THE MAN?  Of course you would, and I can tell you firsthand, that it’s one of THE most exhilarating feelings you can ever experience in life.

Having the power to attract the opposite sex, SEXUALLY, is THE most sought after, and pursued power on the face of the planet.  And believe me, it is an awesome power to hold!  Having the ability to attract women at will is life changing, and makes you feel successful, powerful and sexy.

We humans place such high importance on being sexually attractive to the opposite sex.  It is absolutely ESSENTIAL to the survival and prosperous growth of the human race, that males and females attract each other sexually, and pro-create.

Men are constantly thinking about sex and the glory of having beautiful women.  We fantasise, we imagine and we visualize ourselves having the POWER to attract gorgeous women.  We try to learn the right words to say or the right things to do to attract beautiful women.  We constantly try to do things that make our lives better, so women are more attracted to us.

Women are constantly seeking information, products and services that will enhance their beauty in an effort to be more sexually attractive to men.  They dedicate magazines, web-sites, tv programs, development courses and endless other sources to the pursuit of beauty, youth and attracting men.  They publish countless articles and features with titles like  “How to Attract Men”, “How to Keep a Man”, “7 Sure-fire ways to please your man”, “Do these 7 things, and he’ll love you Forever”  and on and on and on.

Sex makes this world go round.

End of story.

Well, beginning actually, if you realize how simple it is to ATTRACT WOMEN.  If you understand what actually TRIGGERS attraction in women, then you can re-program your sub-conscious mind and modify your behavior, so that you OOZE sexual attractiveness.  Then you can have ANY woman you desire.

First, you need to understand that women are not particularly attracted to a “certain type” of man, but rather a man who displays a “certain type” of character and behavior traits.  Just as men are attracted to visual beauty, women are attracted to certain primal behavior traits and characteristics.

This doesn’t mean they like cavemen who like to grunt and hunt.  This simply means, that certain primal male behavior traits TRIGGER attraction in women.  When a man displays these traits, attraction is triggered in a woman and she will be more receptive to spending time with him, and eventually having sex with him .

So what is it that women are attracted to?

Well many things, but to start with, women are attracted to DOMINANT MEN!  They are most attracted to men who display dominant traits in their behavior and character.  Women want to have sex with a dominant man, the alpha male.

Just like all the other animals in the animal kingdom, women too, are attracted to the strongest alpha male types.
They are sub-consciously programmed to mate with the strongest males, to ensure the greatest chance of survival for their offspring.

By understanding this simple fact of human psychology, you can better understand yourself and the changes you might need to make to develop the right characteristics and behavior.  So how do you become a dominant man and have ANY woman you want?

There are a few key character traits that you will need to develop to ensure you become sexually attractive to women.  Confidence, leadership, decisiveness, passion, boldness, courage and personal strength.  These are some of the building blocks and foundation for your success with women.  If you can develop these traits and ingrain them deep inside your sub-conscious self, so they become a NATURAL part of your character, and BLEND them with the traits that women would LIKE a man to possess, then you will experience lasting success.

In our coming lessons, we will concentrate on each of the KEY CHARACTERISTICS, and help you to develop them so you become a NATURAL.  You WILL BE, a Suave Man.