How To Be Unpredictable To Attract More Women

If there is ONE thing that stops MOST men dead in their tracks when trying to attract women, it’s being BORING!  This is the greatest sin of all.  Women absolutely HATE being bored.  And, once you have been labeled as boring, you will need to do a HUGE amount of work to recover from that.  You will be viewed as a predictable, uninteresting and BORING “nice guy”, and she WILL place you into the dreaded “let’s just be friends” category.

Now to be honest, it’s not that women dislike nice guys, it’s just that nice guys aren’t exciting and fun.  They’re pleasant, predictable and they do and say all the “right things”.  There is no spontaneity or unpredictability, which means, NO fun and excitement.  Deep in their hearts, women are all seeking adventure and excitement.  That’s why bad boys and jerks can always attract beautiful women, because they provide excitement, fun and an element of danger.  Women NEVER know what’s going to happen next.  It’s always one big adventure.

So it goes without saying then, if you are trying to attract women – especially beautiful women – then you need to be interesting, fun and exciting.  Most guys are too busy trying to IMPRESS women with what they think is attractive ie. money, fancy possessions, social standing, workplace positions, personal accomplishments or luxurious lifestyles.  What they don’t do is work on being INTERESTING to women.  Instead they falsely believe that being impressive IS being interesting.

You need to remember that women are more emotional than we are, and as a result, are not interested in or stimulated by the things that interest us.  They are more concerned with FEELING emotions, rather than talking about practical and logical issues.  For example, talking to a woman about the specs of your brand new car, or the stats of the latest football game will more than likely put her to sleep.  BORING!  Hell, I’m a man and know what all that means, AND I get bored listening to someone go on about these things.

It’s more important – actually, it’s essential if you want success with women – that you are FUN, INTERESTING and EXCITING.  And one of the best ways to do that is to be UNPREDICTABLE.

There are a couple of  important things you can implement in your personality right now, that will help you to be more unpredictable, fun and exciting.

Firstly, STOP being afraid to say what you think.  What I mean by this is, you need to have the balls and cheek to make truthful observations about what you see.  You don’t have to be mean and hurtful, just have the nerve to say what others want to, but don’t have the balls to.

Most men are too afraid of upsetting a woman with their words and actions, and as a result, they hold their tongues, and hold back on their actions, which makes them appear boring and predictable to her.  You know, there are only a handful of “right” things you can say and do in any situation, but there are infinite “wrong” things you can say and do.

So it’s far better to say what’s on your mind, than to be pleasant about everything.  Jerks and bad boys have the ability to say and do whatever they want, which makes them seem unpredictable, and in turn, appear exciting to be around.  This is why so many women fall for them.  They just never know what’s going to happen next.  It’s all an experience of excitement and adventure.

You also need to have relaxed playfulness.  Relaxed playfulness is behaving in a fun, playful way with a relaxed attitude about everything.  Playfully tease women.  Teasing most women has an incredible effect, because it shows them that you are not afraid of them and you have the balls to say and do what most of the other guys don’t have the balls to.  Women will automatically assume you are DIFFERENT to 99% of all the other men they meet, because you have just done what most men don’t have the courage to do.

Here’s something I’ve been doing for a long time, and its been the start of so many of the “relations” I’ve had with women.  When I’m out at bars, and I’ve met and started talking to a woman, I like to make a cheeky comment about her cleavage.  I make it obvious I’m staring at her boobs, then I look her in the eyes and say, “you know, I just can’t concentrate with your cleavage staring at me like that, I’m going to have to cover it up”!  Then I’ll pull her top up, or if they are wearing something over the top, I’ll pull that across or down or whatever.  Then after I’ve done that I’ll say, “actually, it was WAY better when they were out”, and I”ll expose her cleavage again.  For added effect, I like to finish that off with a cheeky little hip bump (bump your hip into her hip), followed by a sly smile and wink.

Always works that one, because I just showed her with my words and actions, that I am fun, exciting and unpredictable.  I have just done what NO other man has done to her.  I had the balls to treat her as a sexy woman who I am attracted to, BUT, I can still remain in control of myself.  Extremely powerful and attractive behavior.

If you are behaving the right way, it’ll work for you too.  Give it a try sometime.

This type of behavior shows women that you are relaxed being sexual with them, and comfortable enough to make it all appear to be lighthearted, relaxed and fun.  While most other guys have been using the tired old pick-up lines or canned get-to-know-you question routine, you have just shown her that you are DIFFERENT from ALL the other guys who have approached her.  She will think you are INTERESTING, and be open to more interactions with you.

Most of all though, this type of behavior makes you seem UNPREDICTABLE, EXCITING and FUN.

Try these things out for yourself.  Make sure you are confident in your words and actions, and most of all, make sure you are always having fun doing what you are doing.  Women will notice your relaxed attitude, and appreciate your realness, honesty and unpredictability.



About Baden Maxwell

Baden has been incredibly successful with women since 1999/2000. Suffering a devastating break-up in 1997 when his fiance of 7 years left him, and after enduring 2 years of failure and feeling frustrated and annoyed at his lack of success with the ladies, he vowed to turn his life around! Baden discovered "The Secrets" to becoming an attractive man, and he devoted himself to learning and applying the principles of sexual attraction and relationship success through dedicated study, practice, trial and error. By applying these powerful principles, Baden was able to transform himself into the type of man that women find extremely attractive, highly desirable and incredibly sexy. To become extremely attractive and irresistible to women as well, follow Baden @
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  8. Hey man, greetings from New Zealand. I apologize for the late reply. Advice about staying out of the friend zone … I’m going to write an article especially to help with your problem. It won’t be finished for a little while yet, but here is some quick advice to help you for now.

    Because I don’t have much info about you or your background, I’m assuming that women “just want to be friends” with you because at this stage, you aren’t behaving in a way that triggers their emotional or sub-conscious (primal) programming to become attracted to you in a sexual way. I’m assuming you’re behaving in way that displays “nice guy” characteristics that are turning them “off”, and as a result, you’re ending up in that dreaded place we ALL hate to be.

    Let me explain; When women become sexually attracted to a man, it’s because the man displays certain behavior traits and characteristics. It’s the Dominant, Alpha Male traits and characteristics that women are hard-wired and sub-consciously programmed to respond to sexually, NOT the wining, dining and spoiling them with presents, love and affection, or the respectful, chivalrous, accommodating attitude that makes us seem “nice”, that they are attracted to.

    That means they CANNOT help becoming attracted, if you display dominant, Alpha Male traits – the right way. That’s why there’s the saying that you can’t decide who you fall in love with. This sub-conscious programming is as old as time, and if you can understand it’s dynamics, you’ll hold enormous power to attract ANY woman you like. So behaving confident, assertive (not aggressive), decisive, bold, courageous, outgoing, popular, relaxed and having a devil may care attitude are traits that are extremely attractive to women.

    If you behave in an accommodating, submissive, indecisive and introverted manner, then women are going to view you as a “nice guy” that they WILL find BORING. And once you are viewed as BORING, they immediately dismiss you as a potential sexual partner and place you in the “Friend Zone.” And in fact, most women don’t really want to be friends, it’s just that most of them don’t have the guts to tell you to fuck off.

    The best way to stay out of the friend zone, is to start implementing Alpha Male traits into your behavior and character. Start being a leader that does whatever you want. Don’t ask anyone’s permission – especially a woman’s – to do something. Take the lead and tell others to “Follow Me.” If you are on a date, be prepared with not just A plan, but have a B plan as well. Don’t let her make the decisions, you make the decisions. You take her by the hand and LEAD her around. Don’t believe that women want equal rights for EVERYTHING. It’s only SOME things. When it comes to dating and relationships, women are DESPERATE for a man who can LEAD THE WAY! It’s all about behaving in a dominant (not domineering) way. That means you are confident, decisive, prepared, assertive, bold, courageous, relaxed, and comfortable in ANY situation.

    Don’t be afraid to speak your mind either. If a woman does or says something that you don’t agree with, say so. NEVER be afraid to tell women what you think, or what your position on a topic is. This will give you the “edge” or “x-factor” that so many women are looking for in a man. Too many men are afraid that women won’t like them if they disagree, but that’s just NOT true. Women LOVE it when a man has the balls to do and say what he thinks and feels. It makes you seem unpredictable and exciting.

    Women also become attracted to men who they view as a valuable prize. If you have the attention of many women, your social value immediately skyrockets in the eyes of other women. Too many men are busy TRYING to impress women, that they miss the whole meaning of the attraction dynamic. In fact, 90% of all men behave in a way that repels women, because they are TRYING to impress them, instead of compelling them to impress YOU. If you can learn to get women emotionally compelled to “chase” you, then you will NEVER be placed in the friend zone.

    There are certain psychological tricks you can use to greatly influence a woman’s perception of you, and emotionally compel her to “chase” YOU … And, you don’t need the attention of other women (although that does make it a helluva lot easier). I won’t go into them here, it’s just too long a discussion for now, but rest assured, I WILL get an article out that will go into detail about certain things you can do to compel women to chase YOU!

    Anyway, that’s just a little bit of advice for staying out of the friend zone. If you want more detailed info, stay tuned and keep visiting for more up-to-date information and advice. If you really want to learn how to develop the behavior traits that will make you IRRESISTIBLE to women, and help you stay out of the “Friend Zone” for good, then I strongly suggest you check out The Alpha Male System

    All the best man

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