How would it feel if you could easily, sexually arouse ANY woman? Would having that power make your life more interesting, rewarding and fulfilling? Would it feel great to know that you can drive a woman CRAZY with lust – ANYTIME you want?
Of course it would. What straight man wouldn’t want that power?
I remember when I used to DREAM about having the power to drive a woman crazy with lust. I would lie in bed at night and fantasize about how I would look at her, talk to her, touch her, kiss her and caress her, and how she would magically lust after me.
I have to admit though, that in reality, I had absolutely NO idea how to ACTUALLY get a woman to feel that sort of lust for me. I falsely believed what most of us guys have been programmed to believe. And that is, that a woman’s lust is triggered by a man’s ability to make them feel loved and cared for in a romantic way, and also our ability to provide for them in a financial way. I thought women’s lust had a direct link to how nice we treat them and how generous we are to them.
Boy was I WRONG! And if you believe this, you’re wrong too!
How many of you can relate to the following situation? You have a woman alone, she seems to be into you and things are going really well. But when you go to make your move, she pulls away or gives you the cold shoulder. Huh??? You were so sure you could feel a spark, some chemistry between the two of you. But now, she just doesn’t seem to be interested in you in an intimate way. And the more you try to push things along, the more frigid and uptight she becomes.
Many of us have had these experiences – I’ve definitely had my fair share of these encounters, that’s for sure. And if you haven’t, then you might have to admit to yourself that the reason you haven’t, is because you don’t have the courage, confidence and skills – YET – to get women alone! (Just being honest guys, but anyway, that’s beside the point).
Well, before I learned what I know now, every time I had a woman, this is EXACTLY what happened to me! I remember thinking that either the woman just wasn’t a sexual person, or I would feel like I just wasn’t her type (even though she was alone with me?!?).
WRONG once again.
She is human! Which means she IS sexual! And she HAD decided to be alone with me, which is indication enough that she is interested in taking things further. What had happened, was that I hadn’t built up enough SEXUAL TENSION, and I had lost control of the situation by NOT being dominant enough.
What I have learned from my study and experiences of sexual attraction, is that women’s lust is actually triggered by something far more primal than romantic notions. You see, women are subconsciously programmed to respond sexually to a dominant, powerful, masculine man, an alpha male. A man who can trigger feelings of lust and desire in them.
In the past, I failed because I didn’t behave in a powerful, dominant manner, and I never built up enough sexual tension, if any. I behaved in a weak, timid and insecure manner. What I should have done, was display strong masculinity, TAKE CONTROL by being dominant and then gradually build sexual tension. I should have increased the tension, then taken a step back, then increased it again a little further, then stepped back, then increased again, and on and on until the woman just couldn’t stand it any longer.
Most guys fail at the intimacy stage of seduction because they do one of these following two things: Either they are like I was, and fail to act in time, giving the woman the impression that they’re too weak and timid to make a move. Or, they move too fast, without building enough sexual tension first. These behaviour traits make the woman FEEL uncomfortable and THINK about her decisions and start to question her actions.
Women are emotional creatures – and lust is an emotion – so once a woman starts using her logical mind to make decisions, instead of using her emotions to guide her, she no longer feels lust and your chances are pretty much down the drain.
To understand how to sexually arouse women, first we need to understand the differences between men and women when it comes to sexual arousal.
As you know, us men get turned on by VISUAL STIMULATION. It happens pretty fast, and it doesn’t take much for us to be in the mood. It could be as simple as catching a glimpse of undie gusset or a portion of exposed breast to give us the “schaaawing” feeling in our pants! Once intimacy starts, we like to get to the heart of the matter straight away. So generally, we rush into the initiation and act of sex. We like to get straight down to the nitty gritty and get it on as fast as we can. It’s a linear act for us, get to the goal as fast as possible.
Women on the other hand, get turned on by EMOTIONAL STIMULATION. Their lust is triggered by feelings of tension, namely SEXUAL TENSION. They LOVE to feel anticipation. They love the feeling of not knowing what or when something is going to happen. They love to feel sexual tension that builds GRADUALLY. It’s a wave-like experience for them. They love to feel it build up, then subside, and build up all over again … And again … And again … That’s what gets their hormones raging and their blood boiling and THAT is why women are ALWAYS complaining that men don’t take things SLOW enough!
So to sexually arouse women, we need to take things SLOOOOW. Let the experience drag out and the sexual tension build up gradually. It’s a two steps forward, one step back process. This is the key to building immense, irresistible sexual attraction and longing.
We also need to continue to keep things RELAXED and PLAYFUL. Stop treating intimacy with so much seriousness. It’s meant to be FUN remember, not a rushed, anxiety filled, stressful situation!
Build tension by taking things slow, going forward, then back, relaxing and carrying on with what you were doing like nothing has happened, then forward and back again. You kiss her, then stop and continue like nothing has happened. Then next time you kiss her, kiss for longer and also start to caress her neck, then stop and relax like nothing has happened. Then kiss her again for longer and more passionately, caressing even further, then stop.
You see the pattern? Start and stop. Forward and back. Each time you begin again, take things a little bit further than the last time.
This is how to sexually arouse a woman. You want to keep building the sexual tension until she is WANTING to take things further and further, and wanting to do it faster than you’re going. Keep it playful and fun. Take your time, enjoy the experience of being intimate and before long, you will both be rolling around getting all hot and sweaty.
So this is the Secret to Sexually Arousing Women. Now that you know the secret, next time we will focus on some specific methods you can use to build sexual tension and start having women going crazy with lust for you.
All the best with your efforts. Till next time.