Body Language Attraction – How To Use Body Language To Attract Women


Do you want to know the secrets to attracting women WITHOUT having to speak a single word?  Then learn and understand body language attraction.

Imagine for a minute, that you’re standing alone at a bar.  You glance around the room and see beautiful women all around you.

Now imagine that you exude such a powerful, confident, sexual aura that nearly ALL the women in the joint are giving YOU “the” eye!  You notice that these women all have a certain look on their faces – a longing, lustful look with twinkles in their eyes!

They’re displaying strong signs of attraction towards you, and you can see that you could have ANY one of these gorgeous girls.  The ladies are finding you IRRESISTIBLE : )

And you haven’t even spoken a single word to any one of them!

Can you imagine yourself in this position?

Well if you can’t, then let me tell you…  It’s absolutely POSSIBLE!

How do I know?  Because it happens to me ALL the time!

Now I’m not telling you this to blow my own trumpet.  I’m highlighting the fact that ANY man can attract women without having to say a single word, just by understanding how to use body language attraction.

Now if you’re a regular visitor to The Suave Man, then you no doubt understand now, how important our own body language is in the game of attraction and seduction.

If this is your first visit though, you may need to understand a couple of things before we can go into the finer details of attracting women through body language.

Firstly, you need to understand a couple of truths about our womanly friends.  I won’t go into deep detail right now, you can check out other articles on our site for more in-depth knowledge.

You do need to understand right now though, that women are subconsciously programmed to respond favorably to certain behavior traits and characteristics in men – Alpha Male traits and characteristics.  If a man displays these traits and characteristics, he can trigger attraction in a woman and she will “feel” attraction – many times against her own good-meaning will – and will make a SUBCONSCIOUS decision that she is attracted to that man.

She WILL “feel” attraction!

Secondly, you need to understand that women are mostly controlled by their “emotions” rather than their conscious, intellectual minds.  They follow their “feelings” when choosing a man, rather than what their logical mind tells them.

That’s why they will willingly go out with a bad boy, yet tell everyone that will listen, that all they want is a nice guy! (Their logical mind tells them that a “nice guy” is good for them, yet they are NOT attracted to them.  They are attracted to “bad-boys” – and they don’t even know why most of the time).  And that’s also why we constantly see gorgeous women dating men who lack good looks, muscular physiques, are not rich or famous, don’t drive fancy sports cars and make us all wonder what the hell she sees in him.

Because that guy has displayed the traits and characteristics that she is subconsciously programmed to respond to, and by doing so, he has triggered attraction in her.

Now this is the point where we can use this information to our advantage.  All we need to do is understand what women are programmed to respond to, and then behave and display those traits that will subconsciously FORCE the ladies to become attracted to us.

Simple aye! : )

Well it is when you understand the why, what and how.

So we’ve just been over WHY and WHAT women are attracted to in a man.  Now lets discover the HOW to be that man.

If you observe guys who are great at attracting women, you will notice that there is a certain “presence” about them.  Their postures are very strong, powerful and confident.  They take up a lot of space, are extremely comfortable in their own skin, completely at ease in their surroundings and have no trouble whatsoever establishing and maintaining strong eye contact with women.   They are cool, calm and collected – especially around beautiful women.

In other words – they ooze sexy manliness!

On the other hand, if you observe guys who do not do attract women well, you will notice that they are often very fidgety, nervous and unsure of their position in their surroundings.  Their postures are usually extremely  weak (stooped shoulders, unbalanced or lopsided) and their body language very defensive (folded arms, hands in pockets, hands behind backs, holding drinks or objects in front of chests, lack of eye contact), and they become absolute nervous wrecks in the presence of beautiful women.

If you want to STOP being one of those guys and become a master of attracting women WITHOUT having to speak a single word, it’s clear to see that you’ve got to ditch the weak, defensive body language and start exhibiting strong, confident Alpha Male body language.

Like I said, simple aye! : )

So here’s a list of Alpha Male traits to adopt into your own posture and body language and things to eliminate that can make you appear weak and unattractive.

Attractive Body Lauguage

  • Stand strong and upright – chest out, shoulders back, back straight, feet slightly further than shoulder width apart, evenly balanced (you don’t have to puff yourself up, just do these things in a natural balanced manner)
  • Do NOT fidget with your hands.  Keep them STILL.  This makes you look like you’re in complete control of yourself (a powerful Alpha Male trait)
  • Occupy a lot of space (when standing, take a strong, wide stance.  When sitting, sit up straight and spread your arms out along the back of your chair with your legs apart.  If you cross your legs, do it like a man and rest your ankle on the opposite knee, NOT knee on knee like a girl)
  • Keep your chin up, eyes forward
  • Move slowly and deliberately
  • Establish and maintain strong eye contact with women (this is another powerful Alpha Male trait.  Beta Males can’t maintain eye contact because they’re intimidated by beautiful women)
  • Smile.  It doesn’t have to be a big cheesy grin.  But it does have to portray that you’re a fun, relaxed and easy going guy (a cheeky grin with a twinkle in your eyes is often plenty to attract women)
  • Wink.  If you’re confident enough, try winking at the ladies.  This is also a powerful attraction method.  There is no mistaking your thoughts about a woman when you wink at her.  If she smiles – or better still, winks back – then you know that you have an opening into getting to know her better.
  • This is not so much a body language trait as it is a mental attitude, but you absolutely MUST BELIEVE that you’re Hot, Sexy and Attractive.  Without this firm belief in yourself, your confidence level will never be at its potent best.  Sure you’ll still be able to attract SOME women, but to attract ALL women, you need to BELIEVE!

Things To Avoid

  • Slouching or poor posture
  • Folded or crossed arms
  • Fidgeting and restlessness
  • Staring at the ground, chin down
  • Wandering eyes, inability to maintain focused eye contact
  • Hands in pockets
  • Holding objects or drinks against your chest
  • Leaning to one side while standing
  • Trying to become smaller than what you are
  • Trying to puff yourself up way too much – this will make you appear insecure and that you’re over-compensating for something.  (We’ve all seen these guys before – walking around with puffed out chests, arms out like they’re carrying huge watermelons under their armpits and looking like gorillas.  DON’T be that guy)!

If you implement the strong points and eliminate the weak points from your own body language traits, then you WILL notice the change of attitude from women towards you.  With diligent effort in eliminating the weak points and making the strong points a natural part of yourself, it won’t be long before women everywhere will begin noticing you and paying you VERY SPECIAL attention.

Now these are by NO means the ONLY things you need to succeed with women.  On the contrary, they are really just the beginning – The Initial Attraction Stage.

To really succeed with women you need to have a solid understanding of how to be the type of man that ALL women want to be with, and fully understand the different stages of attraction and seduction.  You’ll need to have a solid plan of action and be able to effortlessly and seamlessly move from one stage of seduction to the next, until you achieve your goal.

If you really want to boost your success levels with women and become a TRUE master of seduction, then I highly recommend checking out my good friend John Alexander’s Top-Selling course How To Become An Alpha Male.

John explains in full detail how to transform YOURSELF into the type of man that women find irresistible, and become the man you’ve always dreamed of being.  It works, because instead of trying to learn “routines” and memorize “pick-up lines” to attract women, it focuses on changing YOU into the guy that women are naturally attracted to, and makes it EASY for you to get women and sex!

Click Here For The Official “How To Become An Alpha Male” Website

Hope this article opens your mind up to the extremely rewarding world of body language attraction.

All The Best


WHY Your Ex Left You

If your woman has just recently left you, then you’re no doubt feeling a whole host of painful emotions.  No doubt you’re feeling upset, angry, jealous, distraught, lost or a whole host of other ugly emotions that lead to the dark side.

Am I right?

Your gut instincts are probably also telling you to scheme up some sort of master plan to try and win her back and make her fall in love with you again, right?

AND…  If you are trying to scheme up a plan, does this plan involve you professing your undying love for her, buying her flowers, expensive gifts, writing poetry or love songs and doing whatever it takes to win her back again?

If it does, I’m gonna bust your balls here, because it’s time to hear the truth.

WAKE THE FUCK UP & SNAP OUT OF IT!!  Stop crying and behaving like a little girl, and be a MAN!!

I know in the movies doing these things works like a charm.  But this is NOT the movies…  This is REAL life!

And in real life, women do NOT like it when men try to win them back with these types of acts.  Look, sure most women out there are going to argue with me, try and tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about and blame me for trying to turn the male population into sexist, uncaring, unromantic, stingy bastards.

But the truth is, if your woman has just left you, then she doesn’t want you to be part of her life at the moment.  She obviously sees her life as being more valuable WITHOUT you.  She just isn’t attracted to you anymore…  For now (you CAN change this you know)!

Now I know it’s one of the hardest things ever, to let go of your lady – I’ve been in EXACTLY the same situation myself you know.  Every fiber of your being is telling you that you NEED to get her back, that you can’t live without her.  And you are going to try ANYTHING to have her back in your life.

Well, I’ve got some GREAT news for you…  You CAN have her back.  I’ve got THE way for you to get her back in your life.

But you’re gonna have to understand WHY she left you in the first place, so you can CHANGE the behavior that has turned her off you, and reignite her attraction in you by BEHAVING in a way that she is SUB-CONSCIOUSLY PROGRAMMED to be attracted to.

O.k, so lets look at WHY she has left you.

Firstly though, if you truthfully analyze the underlying attitudes, beliefs and values that you hold within yourself, and look at your personality, characteristics and behavior traits, can you answer YES to being one or more of the following types of men:

  • You allow your woman to make the majority of decisions in your lives, especially the small ones e.g; whenever she asks you the question “what shall we ________ ?” – fill in the blank – do you often or always answer “I dunno/care, what do you wanna do?”
  • You easily give in to a woman’s demands, offering no challenge or standing up for what you want
  • You tolerate bad behavior towards yourself from your woman or any other person
  • You are jealous of her friendships with other men, or even just seeing her talk to another man
  • You constantly text, call and smother her with attention, giving her NO space of her own
  • You have NO ambitions of becoming someone greater, doing better things, helping to serve and better your community
  • You can’t take care of yourself
  • You are NOT confident, easy-going or fun-loving
  • You constantly seek her approval or the approval of others
  • Your attitude towards life is negative
  • Your posture is slouched and your demeanor and body language is very closed and defensive, or is fidgety, jumpy, wired and generally unsettled and uncool

Now, if you answered NO to ALL of these descriptions, then I’m guessing your woman has left you because she caught you doing something/someone you shouldn’t have been.  And in that case, I congratulate the woman for not tolerating unacceptable behavior.

If, on the other hand, you answered YES to any of the above descriptions, then listen up – because there is hope.  You CAN change the personality, character and behavior traits of yourself that have driven her away.

So here’s the reason WHY your lady is outta your life.

The personality, character and behavior traits that you display, are NOT the qualities that women are hard-wired and sub-consciously programmed to be attracted to.  At this present time, you are displaying qualities of a ‘Beta-Male’ (the followers and/or weak of the pack).

Women are HARD-WIRED and SUB-CONSCIOUSLY PROGRAMMED to be attracted to the ‘Alpha Males’ (the leaders of the pack).

Do you understand the significance of this scientifically proven truth?

If ALL women are hard-wired to be attracted to those certain Alpha Male qualities, then getting your woman back is merely a matter of learning what those qualities are, and then working to make them a part of who YOU are.

So don’t be so hard on yourself.  Understand that it’s really nothing personal – even though this sounds ludicrous and goes against all logic – that your woman left you.  In reality, all that really happened, is that you had not yet learned the ‘rules’ of this game, and she has lost interest – only for now – because you don’t know those rules.

You have broken the ‘rules’ and behaved in way that is NOT attractive to women

Once you know and understand those rules though, and then apply them, you can have her again – or ANY other woman for that matter.

So that’s WHY your woman has left you.

You have obviously been behaving in a manner that is not attractive to woman, and as a result, your woman has left.

To get her back, learn what the Alpha Male traits that you require are, come to understand them fully, implement them into your own personality, character and behavior traits, and finally practice and MASTER them.  Once you have done this, the world is your oyster, and I have a sneaking suspicion that you’re probably going to move onto greater things from there.

So in conclusion, work on eliminating any weak, in-decisive, needy, over-bearing, jealous, negative traits by learning how to be a supremely confident, strong, decisive, easy-going, fun-loving, challenging man.

If you need help learning about these traits and how to apply them to your life, make sure you have a good look around this site.  There is a ton of valuable information available here, absolutely FREE.

To really boost your learning and progress, and get a great jump-start to your new way of BEING, there are a couple of resources I highly recommend you check out.

The first one was written by one of the MASTERS of seduction – John Alexander – and teaches men the Secrets to quickly and AUTOMATICALLY attract their Ex back into their arms.  Probably one of the greatest guides ever written, in my opinion, on this subject.  Click Here To GET YOUR EX BACK NOW

The other guide was also written by John Alexander, and teaches men how to succeed with ANY woman by ingraining the Alpha Male qualities into who they are, and applying the Secret Principles of MAGNETICALLY ATTRACTING women to YOU – Without EVER having to approach them.  Click Here To BECOME AN ALPHA MALE

I hope this article sheds some light on your situation and WHY it may have happened to you.  I sincerely hope that you can overcome this challenge in your life – I honestly know first-hand, how painful an experience this is – and become the type of man who can have ANY woman he desires.

All the best



How To Get Your EX Back

So your girl has told you it’s over.  You’re aching inside and feel like life just isn’t worth living without her.

Everywhere you look, things remind you of your time together.  Every time you turn on the radio a bloody song comes on that gets you thinking of her again.

You’re hurting so much that you feel like the pain is taking over your life.  You can’t concentrate, you’re not eating or sleeping properly.  Shit, other women probably don’t even seem attractive to you anymore either!

And, you keep telling yourself that everything would be fine if you could just make her love you again.

So you hatch a plan.  You decide that you will be romantic and profess your undying love to her.  You shower her with gifts and send her flowers and poetry that lets her know how much she means to you.  You tell her friends how much you miss her and that you’d do ANYTHING for her.

She’s being resistant to your advances – actually, shes starting to get really annoyed and abrasive towards you – but you know that if you persist she will eventually realize how much of a good catch you are and take you back again.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

Before I learned what I know now, my partner of 7 years broke up with me.  I went through this exact situation with that exact same scenario.  And you know what?  My plan to romance and woo her never worked.

You know why?  Because I had NO understanding whatsoever about what women are REALLY attracted to and why behaving the way I did actually pushed her further away from me.

If you are going through the same thing at the moment, then I know exactly what you’re going through right now.  Believe me I know firsthand what that pain and suffering feels like.

And since I’ve been there myself and know exactly what it feels like, I’m going to say this to you;  Get a grip on your emotions, drop your ego and STOP BEING DESPERATE!

Let me assure you that there IS a way you can get your ex back.

But that way is NOT by telling her how much you love her, how much life sucks without her or that you can’t go on living without her in your life.  You won’t get her back by showering her with gifts, flowers and poetry.  That’s just pure desperation.

Remember this, it’s IMPORTANT:  Desperation is an attraction KILLER!

This is what you NEED to do RIGHT NOW.  You need to get yourself together and start IMPROVING yourself.  And if you think you don’t need improving, then why doesn’t your woman want to be with you anymore?

So how do you start improving yourself?  Simple – you need to start LEARNING.

This isn’t about you improving by trying to make more money, or buying new clothes, cars, houses, jewelery or anything like that.  This is about you learning WHAT, WHY and HOW!

You need to learn WHAT women find attractive in men.  You need to learn WHY women are attracted to those things and you need to learn HOW to behave to generate maximum attraction in women.  Once you have learned those things then you need to be able to implement the proper changes in your personality and behavior traits to make yourself a highly desirable man.

Carrying on like a desperate, needy little wuss just isn’t going to cut it!

So, I want you to start learning the WHAT, WHY and HOW about attracting women.  Once you know this knowledge and have implemented the proper changes to your personality and behavior traits, I promise you, you can have ANY woman you want.

Have a good look around this site.  There is plenty of information and links to resources that can really help you in your quest for love – or lust.  Learn what and why women are attracted to certain qualities in a man, then learn how to implement those qualities in your own life so you can be a highly desirable and successful ladies man.

Stay tuned for more detailed information and advice about How To Get Your Ex Back.  If you really can’t wait till later to get your ex back, then you better check out How To Get A Girl Back In 30 Days or Less right now.

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