Why do bad boys get so many ladies? What is it that they possess that is so appealing to women? Why are women SOOO attracted to them? Especially when we constantly hear women say things like: “I just want a NICE guy”.
Simple: they do what ever they want, when ever they want to. They don’t give a shit about what others think or say about them. They never ask permission to say or do ANYTHING. They just DO IT!
THAT my friend is what is so attractive. THAT’S why women LOVE them. Bad boys are independent, they do what they want and they don’t care about the consequences of their actions. They answer to no-one, they come and go as they please and they forge their own destiny.
It’s not the stereo-typical bad boy image – the tattoos, hard drinking, hard partying lifestyle that women find attractive. And it’s NOT that they’re abusive, rude or arrogant that women find them attractive – although women will sometimes tolerate that sort of behaviour IF the guys are appealing enough.
No, it’s the fact that they are direct, to the point, tell it like it is and have the balls to say and do what others are thinking but dare not do. That is the attractiveness of the bad boy. They are REAL. They ACT while others sit and think. They say what others want to, but don’t have the guts to say.
That attitude makes them seem spontaneous, exciting and dangerous. Women absolutely LOVE that in a man!
So how do you get the appeal of a bad boy? More importantly, how do you get the appeal of a bad boy WITHOUT BECOMING BAD?
By having a devil-may-care attitude. By growing the balls to say and do what you desire. By being intense, yet totally relaxed – especially about little things that really don’t matter. By taking your destiny in your own hands, instead of just reacting to whatever comes your way. By realizing that you DO NOT NEED to verbalize and justify your words and actions to anyone – especially to women. THIS is what will drive women crazy.
They will view you as a MAN who can be honest about what you observe, and what you want. They will see you as being real, spontaneous, exciting and having a hint of danger because of your willingness to say and do what others wont. You definitely wont be viewed as NICE and BORING. They will think you’re HOT!
Now please realize that I’m not saying you need to start being aggressive towards others, or disrespectful and hurtful. That will just make you look like an insecure, insensitive bully asshole. No, what I’m saying is have your own path to walk, your own mind to speak and the balls to speak the truth and act of your own accord.
Remember, being BAD, and having the APPEAL of a bad boy, are two totally different things. I’ve found that the best way to be, is to be a GOOD GUY with BAD BOY APPEAL. When you can blend those characteristics into making yourself completely balanced, you become the type of man that ALL women dream about and CRAVE to have in their lives. You will have bad boy appeal WITHOUT all the emotional baggage bad boys usually have.
A quick example of the perfect way to behave: I was at my local bar once, doing the rounds, talking to different groups of friends. I eventually got back to my table and there was a group of four women at a table next to us, so I introduced myself and the people I was with. One of the women had a REALLY big scar on her cheek, the sort of scar that made EVERYONE stare.
I could tell by the look in her eyes that she was uncomfortable because of everybody’s looks and body language. I just looked her straight in the eyes and said “how did you get that, what happened to your face”?
You should of seen the looks everyone gave me. They were all shocked and one of my friends even started apologizing for my forwardness and rudeness.
But, you should of seen the look SHE gave me. Because the look I got from her was one of respect, admiration and relief that someone had treated her with some realness and honesty, instead of pity or disgust. She felt comfortable because I did exactly what she wished everyone else would do – treat her like a REAL person and TALK to her about it.
She was attracted to me for having the courage to say what everyone else was afraid to. As a result, we became very good friends and still are to this day. But even better, that group of four women ALL think I’m HOT, and so do ALL their friends. I know that I could have ANY one of them whenever I want.
Sorry though girls, you know I’m married and unavailable ; ) Which brings us to another subject that we’ll have to discuss at some other time: The magic and appeal of being UNAVAILABLE and HARD-TO-GET. But you can see how the appeal of a bad boy works, and why women are SO attracted to bad boys.
Implement the appeal of a bad boy in your life and watch your success rate with women start to climb.
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Till next time