Confidence … Essential In Attracting Women

When it comes to attracting women, there is one quality that is consistently at the top when women talk about what they want in a man … CONFIDENCE!!

If a man has confidence, it makes him seem POWERFUL, IN CONTROL and DOMINANT.  Women automatically and unconsciously come to the conclusion that he is in CONTROL of himself, KNOWS what he wants and has the BALLS to go and get it.

You see, portraying confidence to a woman has a VERY SPECIAL effect on her.  If a man holds and conducts himself with confidence, she will take notice.  When a man has the confidence to look her in the eyes (something that 90% of men DO NOT do – especially if she is beautiful), while communicating and interacting with her, she subconsciously says to herself – ‘This man is NOT afraid of me.  This man is COMFORTABLE in my presence.  This man has an EQUAL or GREATER value than mine’.

Remember this and understand its importance: Women DO NOT have sex with men who they perceive to have a LOWER VALUE than themselves. They ONLY have sex with men who are EQUAL or SUPERIOR.  Displaying the right type of confidence, can help by-pass a woman’s attempts to screen test and judge you, and show her that you are not intimidated by her at all.  She will deem you as being equal, or even better, perceive you as being superior.  Women WANT and CRAVE to be dominated by a superior man, an Alpha Male.

When women screen men – and they do it ALL the time, EVERY time they meet a man -they do it in a very short space of time.  In fact they do it in a matter of SECONDS.  Women are USED to men hitting on them ALL THE TIME!  It is second nature for them to socially screen men in seconds of meeting them to judge whether they are WORTHY to invest time in.

It’s not just beautiful women either, it’s ALL women.  Even ugly women can, and DO, get their fair share of lovin’. Because they are hit on all the time, they naturally become EXPERTS at determining quickly whether a man measures up or not.  And what are they looking for?


You need to understand that women are looking for a man who is DOMINANT, CONFIDENT, POWERFUL and AUTHORITATIVE. When you hear women say they are looking for a sensitive, caring guy, what they really mean is – ‘I CRAVE to be with a man who is dominant, confident and powerful, who is ALSO sensitive and caring’.  Don’t be fooled into thinking they want men to be JUST sensitive and caring.  They are looking for a perfect BALANCE in a man.

Back to confidence though.  Displaying your confidence by communicating and interacting with her in a relaxed and comfortable manner, you are subconsciously portraying to her that you are NOT afraid of her, and you have an equal or higher value than hers.  This is what she is screening and testing men for – to see if they possess the ability to excite her, interest her, entertain her and dominate her.  Only a confident alpha male has the ability to do that to a woman.

“But, how do I get that sort of confidence?  I don’t have any idea!”, I can hear you saying.  Well good question, because it’s not as easy as saying to yourself “I AM CONFIDENT”, and you will all of a sudden possess it.  But it’s not THAT hard to develop either.

The first thing you need to do, is to START visualizing yourself as a man with the TYPE of confidence that women are attracted to.  That TYPE of confidence is the SUPREME SELF CONFIDENCE that you see ladies men all over the world possessing.  If you lack the sort of confidence you want,FAKE IT till you MAKE IT!  Start by COPYING the body language, posture and mannerisms of  successful ladies men in your area, or watch movies.

Check out movies with great leading men who are suave.  James Bond has to be one of THE most Suave Ladies Men to ever grace the movie screen.  It doesn’t really matter which actor plays him, it’s the characteristics and traits of Bond that they all portray that are important.

Pay attention to the way Bond handles himself with women.  Notice how he ALWAYS looks women directly in the eyes, says things that MOST men are too scared to say and all the while standing there with a cheeky grin on his face.    Notice how he holds himself, ALWAYS cool, calm, composed and self assured, NEVER afraid, timid or indecisive.  Imagine and visualize yourself being this way.

Now check your POSTURE.  How do you stand?  How do you walk?  If you are not feeling very confident, chances are your posture and walking style sucks.  You’re probably slouching, letting your shoulders and chest sag forward, dragging your arms and with your chin tucked in and eyes looking down.  Am I right?

Then change.  Start standing tall, straighten your spine, push your shoulders back, stick your chest out,keep your chin and eyes up and scan your surroundings, but keep it relaxed.  You don’t want to look like one of those insecure, thinks he’s a man, wanna-be tough guys.  It might feel uncomfortable and unnatural to start with – that’s probably because you’re so used to slouching – but trust me, you’ll definitely LOOK better.  But you really should FEEL the difference straight away.  Do you FEEL more powerful, stronger and more manly?

When you walk, keep your posture, and walk slowly and deliberately.  Not so slow you’re just about moving in slow motion, but slow enough that you are not zipping around, looking like you are out of CONTROL.  Women notice these little things, and being out of CONTROL is NOT a good look.  In fact, you should do EVERYTHING in a CONTROLLED, deliberate manner.

When you look around, do it slowly and deliberately.  Once again, eyes that can’t stay still or dart all over the place make you look CRAZY and out of CONTROL.  Notice the BIG emphasis on CONTROL?  Because being in control MATTERS!!  Women are attracted to men who are in CONTROL!!

Working on these things is a good start to developing your confidence.  Practice these for the next couple weeks, try and make a conscious effort to make them part of your daily routine.  Slowly build them into your subconsciousness by doing them every day.  Soon it will become a HABIT and once that happens, it will start to be your natural way of being.

We will focus on some specific techniques to help build your confidence TALKING and INTERACTING with women soon.  For now, just focus on getting your POSTURE, WALKING STYLE, SCANNING YOUR SURROUNDINGS and STUDYING and VISUALIZING the way successful ladies men behave.

Note how you FEEL when you hold yourself properly and try and notice if people TREAT you differently.  Enjoy building your NEW SELF.  Talk again soon.



How To Be Attractive To Women

To begin with, you need to understand WHY women become attracted to certain men.  Once you have come to understand this, then you can more easily implement the proper changes in your personality and character to be more attractive to women.

Let’s start by looking at WHY women find some men extremely attractive, while other men have NO HOPE in hell.  On the surface, two men may SEEM the same.  They have similar physiques, similar looks, they make the same amount of money, drive the same sort of car etc etc.

But when it comes to attracting women, one is WAAYY ahead of the other in ‘the game’.  Why is this, and what are they doing differently?  It’s really quite simple – one possesses and displays attractive qualities and characteristics, and the other doesn’t.  When women become attracted to a man, it’s because he has ‘certain‘ qualities and characteristics that have TRIGGERED that attraction in them.

Women are sub-consciously hard-wired and programmed with an innate desire to mate with the DOMINANT men, the ALPHA MALES in our societies.  This desire has been naturally ingrained in women since the beginning of recorded history, when survival DEPENDED upon the strongest and fittest of the males to protect and provide for the welfare of the group.  By mating with the alphas, women ensured the greatest chance of survival to her offspring and the human race.

In fact, it’s such a natural instinct that most female mammals are programmed this way.  You only need to have a quick look at the many different species in the animal kingdom, and their sexual attraction behavior to see this is true.  Chimpanzees and Baboons are a prime example.  Go ahead, watch a program from Discovery Channel or Animal Kingdom about animal sexual attraction and you will see this for yourself.

The Dominant Alpha Male gets to have ALL the females, while the other males have to resort to tricks and bribery to get sex.  No different to humans really.  How many men do you see, trying to buy, bribe or trick their way into a woman’s life, heart and pants?  Women are NOT attracted to this type of behavior.  Are you one of these men?


Ok, even though we now live in a completely different era, and survival of the human race is no longer dependent on the strongest and fittest men, women are STILL hard-wired and programmed with that innate desire to mate with the strongest dominant males.  Remember, IT IS A NATURAL INSTINCT!

In this day and age though, men no longer NEED to be strong or fit PHYSICALLY (although it doesn’t hurt to be), but we DO NEED to be strong in character and personality.  We need to have the strength of character to follow our OWN hearts, make our OWN decisions, our OWN rules and control our OWN lives in order to have more success with women.

This is what gives a man his DOMINANCE.  It’s his ability to be in CONTROL of himself, and LEAD others that makes him an ALPHA MALE.  You don’t need to be a bully, or domineering, because that is NOT dominant.  That sort of behavior is just INSECURE, NEEDY and WEAK.  You DO need to be strong within yourself, confident and comfortable in who you are, decisive about what you want and have the GUTS to go and get what you want, in order to be a DOMINANT man.

If you are currently allowing women to CONTROL your destiny, or worse, GIVING CONTROL AWAY to the women in your life, then you will be suffering from a serious LACK of attractive characteristics and behavior.


So in order to become more attractive to women, you will need to start developing the strength of character to STAND on your OWN, and lead the way.  This starts with CONFIDENCE.

If you are hoping to have ANY sort of success with women, then it is absolutely ESSENTIAL, to develop your confidence so that you have the personal INNER strength to stand up for what you want.  Nobody will just give you what you want, you MUST have the BALLS to go and get what you want.

But confidence on its own is NOT enough.  There are lots of guys out there who have more than enough confidence, but will lose out to someone who possesses this characteristic every time.  What is it?  INITIATIVE.  This means YOU MUST ALWAYS BE FIRST.  Be first to walk up to a woman and start a conversation, be first to kiss her (without asking), be first to get her number, lead her to the bedroom, be first to initiate sex.  When you are out with a group, stay out in front.  Be FIRST.

In other words – LEAD!!!

You also NEED to start right NOW, being DECISIVE.  Start making decisions.  When someone asks for your input, give it.  If a woman asks what to do, tell her.  Start RIGHT NOW being decisive and making decisions.

DO NOT sit on the fence and say “I don’t care, whatever you want babe”, or “It’s up to you baby, you choose”.  This is WEAK behavior and NOT ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN at all.  Women are NOT attracted to weak men.  “But I’m just being courteous and thinking about what she wants”, I can hear you saying.

NOOO, YOU ARE NOT!!!  You are being WEAK and INDECISIVE, and annoying the fuck out of her.  That’s why BAD-BOYS can ALWAYS get women – because they take control and lead the way.  They know what they want, and they have the confidence to go and get it.  Women are EXCITED by this behaviour, and by THE MAN who behaves this way.

Be strong, be confident, use initiative, be decisive.  BE DOMINANT.  Confidence, Initiative and Decisiveness are some of the most IMPORTANT qualities you will need, to be attractive to women.  They are not the only qualities, but these qualities will lay the foundation to becoming a SUAVE MAN.  If you ever hope to have the sort of success that you dream of, then start developing these qualities.



The Fundamentals of being a SUAVE MAN

There is a “type” of  man we are going to focus on, and help you become … He is the “type” that women absolutely LOVE … And LUST … He is a DOMINANT, POWERFUL, MASCULINE ALPHA MALE who is ALSO funny, kind, caring, thoughtful and understanding.  He is THE SUAVE MAN.

The Suave Man is not a bad ass with no respect or manners, but neither is he a wussy, push-over of a guy with no back-bone.  He has a combination of “nice guy” and “bad boy” qualities that make him irresistible to women.

He is a DOMINANT, POWERFUL, MASCULINE  man. A man who can take charge and lead the way in any situation, yet isn’t domineering or controlling.  He is open, friendly, optimistic, positive, fun and happy, yet will take a stand against those who are disrespectful, aggressive or violent.  He has his own opinions, yet lets others have theirs without judging them. He makes all those around him feel GREAT about being with him. 

He is completely comfortable in the presence of ALL women, no matter how beautiful they may be.  He treats them ALL the same way – with a fun, playful confidence and cheeky, flirtatious nature.  He ALWAYS has a cool, calm demeanor.  He makes women feel safe, yet extremely alive.  He enjoys the company of the ladies and they CRAVE to be in his company.  He LOVES women and women LOVE him.

He believes and KNOWS, that he is sexually attractive to women, yet doesn’t behave overly cocky or arrogant.  He knows he’s extremely attractive to women because of the way they treat him. However, he doesn’t need constant validation of his attractiveness nor does he seek it. He doesn’t need to beat his chest, make loud noises or big gestures like the other beta-males either, thinking that women will notice them if they behave like apes.

He understands what women find attractive and his character, attitudes and behaviour are proof that he is a highly attractive man.

I want you to read those paragraphs over and over, until the words sink into your head.  Ingrain those words into your sub-conscious mind and way of thinking, because this is the type of man you should be trying to become.  This is the man that women find extremely attractive and want to be with.

Here is a list of qualities you NEED to commit to developing and reinforcing in your sub-conscious mind.  You need to be

  • Confident
  • A Leader
  • Decisive
  • Strong in Personal Character
  • Funny
  • Passionate
  • Fun-loving
  • Bold
  • Courageous
  • Relaxed
  • Thoughtful
  • Kind
  • Caring
  • Understanding

These are the qualities that will help you become the type of man that ALL women want to be with.  If you can develop and ingrain these qualities into your personality and character, I promise you, you can have ANY women you desire.  Hell, you can have ANYTHING you desire!  You will have the strength of charater to have anything you want.  ANYTHING!!

Many people who are “authorities” on picking up women, or being a pick-up artist, or being a player, or whatever other label you want to put on it, will tell you not all of these qualities are necessary.  This is because they are only concerned with “picking up” women.  It’s only necessary for them to attract women initially, for the purpose of getting sex.

If that’s all you’re after, then by all means, go ahead, but that’s not SUAVE.  I’m not against you getting more sex, shit man, I’m all for that.  It’s the mis-use of this information, that leads to women becoming PREY, rather than PEOPLE, that pisses me off.  More often than not, men who behave this way just want conquests, not relationships.

If you want LASTING success with women, trust me, women will absolutely CRAVE to be with you, and be completely addicted to you, if you develop ALL the qualities on our list.  That’s what will make you a true ladies man, a real deal, SUAVE MAN.