When it comes to attracting women, there is one quality that is consistently at the top when women talk about what they want in a man … CONFIDENCE!!
If a man has confidence, it makes him seem POWERFUL, IN CONTROL and DOMINANT. Women automatically and unconsciously come to the conclusion that he is in CONTROL of himself, KNOWS what he wants and has the BALLS to go and get it.
You see, portraying confidence to a woman has a VERY SPECIAL effect on her. If a man holds and conducts himself with confidence, she will take notice. When a man has the confidence to look her in the eyes (something that 90% of men DO NOT do – especially if she is beautiful), while communicating and interacting with her, she subconsciously says to herself – ‘This man is NOT afraid of me. This man is COMFORTABLE in my presence. This man has an EQUAL or GREATER value than mine’.
Remember this and understand its importance: Women DO NOT have sex with men who they perceive to have a LOWER VALUE than themselves. They ONLY have sex with men who are EQUAL or SUPERIOR. Displaying the right type of confidence, can help by-pass a woman’s attempts to screen test and judge you, and show her that you are not intimidated by her at all. She will deem you as being equal, or even better, perceive you as being superior. Women WANT and CRAVE to be dominated by a superior man, an Alpha Male.
When women screen men – and they do it ALL the time, EVERY time they meet a man -they do it in a very short space of time. In fact they do it in a matter of SECONDS. Women are USED to men hitting on them ALL THE TIME! It is second nature for them to socially screen men in seconds of meeting them to judge whether they are WORTHY to invest time in.
It’s not just beautiful women either, it’s ALL women. Even ugly women can, and DO, get their fair share of lovin’. Because they are hit on all the time, they naturally become EXPERTS at determining quickly whether a man measures up or not. And what are they looking for?
Signs of your DOMINANCE, INNER STRENGTH AND CONFIDENCE.
You need to understand that women are looking for a man who is DOMINANT, CONFIDENT, POWERFUL and AUTHORITATIVE. When you hear women say they are looking for a sensitive, caring guy, what they really mean is – ‘I CRAVE to be with a man who is dominant, confident and powerful, who is ALSO sensitive and caring’. Don’t be fooled into thinking they want men to be JUST sensitive and caring. They are looking for a perfect BALANCE in a man.
Back to confidence though. Displaying your confidence by communicating and interacting with her in a relaxed and comfortable manner, you are subconsciously portraying to her that you are NOT afraid of her, and you have an equal or higher value than hers. This is what she is screening and testing men for – to see if they possess the ability to excite her, interest her, entertain her and dominate her. Only a confident alpha male has the ability to do that to a woman.
“But, how do I get that sort of confidence? I don’t have any idea!”, I can hear you saying. Well good question, because it’s not as easy as saying to yourself “I AM CONFIDENT”, and you will all of a sudden possess it. But it’s not THAT hard to develop either.
The first thing you need to do, is to START visualizing yourself as a man with the TYPE of confidence that women are attracted to. That TYPE of confidence is the SUPREME SELF CONFIDENCE that you see ladies men all over the world possessing. If you lack the sort of confidence you want,FAKE IT till you MAKE IT! Start by COPYING the body language, posture and mannerisms of successful ladies men in your area, or watch movies.
Check out movies with great leading men who are suave. James Bond has to be one of THE most Suave Ladies Men to ever grace the movie screen. It doesn’t really matter which actor plays him, it’s the characteristics and traits of Bond that they all portray that are important.
Pay attention to the way Bond handles himself with women. Notice how he ALWAYS looks women directly in the eyes, says things that MOST men are too scared to say and all the while standing there with a cheeky grin on his face. Notice how he holds himself, ALWAYS cool, calm, composed and self assured, NEVER afraid, timid or indecisive. Imagine and visualize yourself being this way.
Now check your POSTURE. How do you stand? How do you walk? If you are not feeling very confident, chances are your posture and walking style sucks. You’re probably slouching, letting your shoulders and chest sag forward, dragging your arms and with your chin tucked in and eyes looking down. Am I right?
Then change. Start standing tall, straighten your spine, push your shoulders back, stick your chest out,keep your chin and eyes up and scan your surroundings, but keep it relaxed. You don’t want to look like one of those insecure, thinks he’s a man, wanna-be tough guys. It might feel uncomfortable and unnatural to start with – that’s probably because you’re so used to slouching – but trust me, you’ll definitely LOOK better. But you really should FEEL the difference straight away. Do you FEEL more powerful, stronger and more manly?
When you walk, keep your posture, and walk slowly and deliberately. Not so slow you’re just about moving in slow motion, but slow enough that you are not zipping around, looking like you are out of CONTROL. Women notice these little things, and being out of CONTROL is NOT a good look. In fact, you should do EVERYTHING in a CONTROLLED, deliberate manner.
When you look around, do it slowly and deliberately. Once again, eyes that can’t stay still or dart all over the place make you look CRAZY and out of CONTROL. Notice the BIG emphasis on CONTROL? Because being in control MATTERS!! Women are attracted to men who are in CONTROL!!
Working on these things is a good start to developing your confidence. Practice these for the next couple weeks, try and make a conscious effort to make them part of your daily routine. Slowly build them into your subconsciousness by doing them every day. Soon it will become a HABIT and once that happens, it will start to be your natural way of being.
We will focus on some specific techniques to help build your confidence TALKING and INTERACTING with women soon. For now, just focus on getting your POSTURE, WALKING STYLE, SCANNING YOUR SURROUNDINGS and STUDYING and VISUALIZING the way successful ladies men behave.
Note how you FEEL when you hold yourself properly and try and notice if people TREAT you differently. Enjoy building your NEW SELF. Talk again soon.