Do you want to know the secrets to attracting women WITHOUT having to speak a single word? Then learn and understand body language attraction.
Imagine for a minute, that you’re standing alone at a bar. You glance around the room and see beautiful women all around you.
Now imagine that you exude such a powerful, confident, sexual aura that nearly ALL the women in the joint are giving YOU “the” eye! You notice that these women all have a certain look on their faces – a longing, lustful look with twinkles in their eyes!
They’re displaying strong signs of attraction towards you, and you can see that you could have ANY one of these gorgeous girls. The ladies are finding you IRRESISTIBLE : )
And you haven’t even spoken a single word to any one of them!
Can you imagine yourself in this position?
Well if you can’t, then let me tell you… It’s absolutely POSSIBLE!
How do I know? Because it happens to me ALL the time!
Now I’m not telling you this to blow my own trumpet. I’m highlighting the fact that ANY man can attract women without having to say a single word, just by understanding how to use body language attraction.
Now if you’re a regular visitor to The Suave Man, then you no doubt understand now, how important our own body language is in the game of attraction and seduction.
If this is your first visit though, you may need to understand a couple of things before we can go into the finer details of attracting women through body language.
Firstly, you need to understand a couple of truths about our womanly friends. I won’t go into deep detail right now, you can check out other articles on our site for more in-depth knowledge.
You do need to understand right now though, that women are subconsciously programmed to respond favorably to certain behavior traits and characteristics in men – Alpha Male traits and characteristics. If a man displays these traits and characteristics, he can trigger attraction in a woman and she will “feel” attraction – many times against her own good-meaning will – and will make a SUBCONSCIOUS decision that she is attracted to that man.
She WILL “feel” attraction!
Secondly, you need to understand that women are mostly controlled by their “emotions” rather than their conscious, intellectual minds. They follow their “feelings” when choosing a man, rather than what their logical mind tells them.
That’s why they will willingly go out with a bad boy, yet tell everyone that will listen, that all they want is a nice guy! (Their logical mind tells them that a “nice guy” is good for them, yet they are NOT attracted to them. They are attracted to “bad-boys” – and they don’t even know why most of the time). And that’s also why we constantly see gorgeous women dating men who lack good looks, muscular physiques, are not rich or famous, don’t drive fancy sports cars and make us all wonder what the hell she sees in him.
Because that guy has displayed the traits and characteristics that she is subconsciously programmed to respond to, and by doing so, he has triggered attraction in her.
Now this is the point where we can use this information to our advantage. All we need to do is understand what women are programmed to respond to, and then behave and display those traits that will subconsciously FORCE the ladies to become attracted to us.
Simple aye! : )
Well it is when you understand the why, what and how.
So we’ve just been over WHY and WHAT women are attracted to in a man. Now lets discover the HOW to be that man.
If you observe guys who are great at attracting women, you will notice that there is a certain “presence” about them. Their postures are very strong, powerful and confident. They take up a lot of space, are extremely comfortable in their own skin, completely at ease in their surroundings and have no trouble whatsoever establishing and maintaining strong eye contact with women. They are cool, calm and collected – especially around beautiful women.
In other words – they ooze sexy manliness!
On the other hand, if you observe guys who do not do attract women well, you will notice that they are often very fidgety, nervous and unsure of their position in their surroundings. Their postures are usually extremely weak (stooped shoulders, unbalanced or lopsided) and their body language very defensive (folded arms, hands in pockets, hands behind backs, holding drinks or objects in front of chests, lack of eye contact), and they become absolute nervous wrecks in the presence of beautiful women.
If you want to STOP being one of those guys and become a master of attracting women WITHOUT having to speak a single word, it’s clear to see that you’ve got to ditch the weak, defensive body language and start exhibiting strong, confident Alpha Male body language.
Like I said, simple aye! : )
So here’s a list of Alpha Male traits to adopt into your own posture and body language and things to eliminate that can make you appear weak and unattractive.
Attractive Body Lauguage
- Stand strong and upright – chest out, shoulders back, back straight, feet slightly further than shoulder width apart, evenly balanced (you don’t have to puff yourself up, just do these things in a natural balanced manner)
- Do NOT fidget with your hands. Keep them STILL. This makes you look like you’re in complete control of yourself (a powerful Alpha Male trait)
- Occupy a lot of space (when standing, take a strong, wide stance. When sitting, sit up straight and spread your arms out along the back of your chair with your legs apart. If you cross your legs, do it like a man and rest your ankle on the opposite knee, NOT knee on knee like a girl)
- Keep your chin up, eyes forward
- Move slowly and deliberately
- Establish and maintain strong eye contact with women (this is another powerful Alpha Male trait. Beta Males can’t maintain eye contact because they’re intimidated by beautiful women)
- Smile. It doesn’t have to be a big cheesy grin. But it does have to portray that you’re a fun, relaxed and easy going guy (a cheeky grin with a twinkle in your eyes is often plenty to attract women)
- Wink. If you’re confident enough, try winking at the ladies. This is also a powerful attraction method. There is no mistaking your thoughts about a woman when you wink at her. If she smiles – or better still, winks back – then you know that you have an opening into getting to know her better.
- This is not so much a body language trait as it is a mental attitude, but you absolutely MUST BELIEVE that you’re Hot, Sexy and Attractive. Without this firm belief in yourself, your confidence level will never be at its potent best. Sure you’ll still be able to attract SOME women, but to attract ALL women, you need to BELIEVE!
Things To Avoid
- Slouching or poor posture
- Folded or crossed arms
- Fidgeting and restlessness
- Staring at the ground, chin down
- Wandering eyes, inability to maintain focused eye contact
- Hands in pockets
- Holding objects or drinks against your chest
- Leaning to one side while standing
- Trying to become smaller than what you are
- Trying to puff yourself up way too much – this will make you appear insecure and that you’re over-compensating for something. (We’ve all seen these guys before – walking around with puffed out chests, arms out like they’re carrying huge watermelons under their armpits and looking like gorillas. DON’T be that guy)!
If you implement the strong points and eliminate the weak points from your own body language traits, then you WILL notice the change of attitude from women towards you. With diligent effort in eliminating the weak points and making the strong points a natural part of yourself, it won’t be long before women everywhere will begin noticing you and paying you VERY SPECIAL attention.
Now these are by NO means the ONLY things you need to succeed with women. On the contrary, they are really just the beginning – The Initial Attraction Stage.
To really succeed with women you need to have a solid understanding of how to be the type of man that ALL women want to be with, and fully understand the different stages of attraction and seduction. You’ll need to have a solid plan of action and be able to effortlessly and seamlessly move from one stage of seduction to the next, until you achieve your goal.
If you really want to boost your success levels with women and become a TRUE master of seduction, then I highly recommend checking out my good friend John Alexander’s Top-Selling course How To Become An Alpha Male.
John explains in full detail how to transform YOURSELF into the type of man that women find irresistible, and become the man you’ve always dreamed of being. It works, because instead of trying to learn “routines” and memorize “pick-up lines” to attract women, it focuses on changing YOU into the guy that women are naturally attracted to, and makes it EASY for you to get women and sex!
Hope this article opens your mind up to the extremely rewarding world of body language attraction.
All The Best