WHY Your Ex Left You

If your woman has just recently left you, then you’re no doubt feeling a whole host of painful emotions.  No doubt you’re feeling upset, angry, jealous, distraught, lost or a whole host of other ugly emotions that lead to the dark side.

Am I right?

Your gut instincts are probably also telling you to scheme up some sort of master plan to try and win her back and make her fall in love with you again, right?

AND…  If you are trying to scheme up a plan, does this plan involve you professing your undying love for her, buying her flowers, expensive gifts, writing poetry or love songs and doing whatever it takes to win her back again?

If it does, I’m gonna bust your balls here, because it’s time to hear the truth.

WAKE THE FUCK UP & SNAP OUT OF IT!!  Stop crying and behaving like a little girl, and be a MAN!!

I know in the movies doing these things works like a charm.  But this is NOT the movies…  This is REAL life!

And in real life, women do NOT like it when men try to win them back with these types of acts.  Look, sure most women out there are going to argue with me, try and tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about and blame me for trying to turn the male population into sexist, uncaring, unromantic, stingy bastards.

But the truth is, if your woman has just left you, then she doesn’t want you to be part of her life at the moment.  She obviously sees her life as being more valuable WITHOUT you.  She just isn’t attracted to you anymore…  For now (you CAN change this you know)!

Now I know it’s one of the hardest things ever, to let go of your lady – I’ve been in EXACTLY the same situation myself you know.  Every fiber of your being is telling you that you NEED to get her back, that you can’t live without her.  And you are going to try ANYTHING to have her back in your life.

Well, I’ve got some GREAT news for you…  You CAN have her back.  I’ve got THE way for you to get her back in your life.

But you’re gonna have to understand WHY she left you in the first place, so you can CHANGE the behavior that has turned her off you, and reignite her attraction in you by BEHAVING in a way that she is SUB-CONSCIOUSLY PROGRAMMED to be attracted to.

O.k, so lets look at WHY she has left you.

Firstly though, if you truthfully analyze the underlying attitudes, beliefs and values that you hold within yourself, and look at your personality, characteristics and behavior traits, can you answer YES to being one or more of the following types of men:

  • You allow your woman to make the majority of decisions in your lives, especially the small ones e.g; whenever she asks you the question “what shall we ________ ?” – fill in the blank – do you often or always answer “I dunno/care, what do you wanna do?”
  • You easily give in to a woman’s demands, offering no challenge or standing up for what you want
  • You tolerate bad behavior towards yourself from your woman or any other person
  • You are jealous of her friendships with other men, or even just seeing her talk to another man
  • You constantly text, call and smother her with attention, giving her NO space of her own
  • You have NO ambitions of becoming someone greater, doing better things, helping to serve and better your community
  • You can’t take care of yourself
  • You are NOT confident, easy-going or fun-loving
  • You constantly seek her approval or the approval of others
  • Your attitude towards life is negative
  • Your posture is slouched and your demeanor and body language is very closed and defensive, or is fidgety, jumpy, wired and generally unsettled and uncool

Now, if you answered NO to ALL of these descriptions, then I’m guessing your woman has left you because she caught you doing something/someone you shouldn’t have been.  And in that case, I congratulate the woman for not tolerating unacceptable behavior.

If, on the other hand, you answered YES to any of the above descriptions, then listen up – because there is hope.  You CAN change the personality, character and behavior traits of yourself that have driven her away.

So here’s the reason WHY your lady is outta your life.

The personality, character and behavior traits that you display, are NOT the qualities that women are hard-wired and sub-consciously programmed to be attracted to.  At this present time, you are displaying qualities of a ‘Beta-Male’ (the followers and/or weak of the pack).

Women are HARD-WIRED and SUB-CONSCIOUSLY PROGRAMMED to be attracted to the ‘Alpha Males’ (the leaders of the pack).

Do you understand the significance of this scientifically proven truth?

If ALL women are hard-wired to be attracted to those certain Alpha Male qualities, then getting your woman back is merely a matter of learning what those qualities are, and then working to make them a part of who YOU are.

So don’t be so hard on yourself.  Understand that it’s really nothing personal – even though this sounds ludicrous and goes against all logic – that your woman left you.  In reality, all that really happened, is that you had not yet learned the ‘rules’ of this game, and she has lost interest – only for now – because you don’t know those rules.

You have broken the ‘rules’ and behaved in way that is NOT attractive to women

Once you know and understand those rules though, and then apply them, you can have her again – or ANY other woman for that matter.

So that’s WHY your woman has left you.

You have obviously been behaving in a manner that is not attractive to woman, and as a result, your woman has left.

To get her back, learn what the Alpha Male traits that you require are, come to understand them fully, implement them into your own personality, character and behavior traits, and finally practice and MASTER them.  Once you have done this, the world is your oyster, and I have a sneaking suspicion that you’re probably going to move onto greater things from there.

So in conclusion, work on eliminating any weak, in-decisive, needy, over-bearing, jealous, negative traits by learning how to be a supremely confident, strong, decisive, easy-going, fun-loving, challenging man.

If you need help learning about these traits and how to apply them to your life, make sure you have a good look around this site.  There is a ton of valuable information available here, absolutely FREE.

To really boost your learning and progress, and get a great jump-start to your new way of BEING, there are a couple of resources I highly recommend you check out.

The first one was written by one of the MASTERS of seduction – John Alexander – and teaches men the Secrets to quickly and AUTOMATICALLY attract their Ex back into their arms.  Probably one of the greatest guides ever written, in my opinion, on this subject.  Click Here To GET YOUR EX BACK NOW

The other guide was also written by John Alexander, and teaches men how to succeed with ANY woman by ingraining the Alpha Male qualities into who they are, and applying the Secret Principles of MAGNETICALLY ATTRACTING women to YOU – Without EVER having to approach them.  Click Here To BECOME AN ALPHA MALE

I hope this article sheds some light on your situation and WHY it may have happened to you.  I sincerely hope that you can overcome this challenge in your life – I honestly know first-hand, how painful an experience this is – and become the type of man who can have ANY woman he desires.

All the best



5 Tips To Help Successfully Flirt With Women

There are some men who find flirting with women an easy, natural process, and there are others who find flirting a difficult and uncomfortable experience.  Which group do you fit into?

If you are in the second group of men, I want to share some insights with you, that can help you develop the skills to easily and naturally flirt with women.  And as a result of developing good flirting abilities, you should be able to start using those skills to attract women.

Firstly, do you know WHAT flirting is?

Flirting is the process humans use to communicate a sexual or romantic interest in another person.  It is a common form of social interaction that consists of a combination of body language, conversation and physical contact.  Flirting usually involves behaving and speaking in a certain way, that portrays a high interest in becoming intimate with that person.

Now that’s the “official” meaning of flirting.  But successful flirting with women – especially beautiful women – is a far more skillful act then merely just communicating a sexual or romantic interest.  There are certain behavior traits, characteristics, verbal and non-verbal communication skills that need to be displayed to flirt successfully.

To gain a better understanding of how to flirt more successfully, I think it’s important to first look at the different sexual strategies of men and women.

Firstly, you need to understand that the sexual strategies of humans are deeply imprinted on our subconsciousness.  They are INSTINCTUAL!  We can’t change those instincts and we can’t CHOOSE who we feel attraction for – we just FEEL it.

Nature has created a mechanism that drives men and women toward one another for the purpose of continuing to create more life, and  make babies for the survival of our species.  This mechanism is what we call attraction, more to the point, SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

The feeling of attraction, is really just the chemical reaction of certain hormones that are produced by our bodies.  And when our bodies create this chemical reaction, the resulting feeling is what we call attraction.  It’s important to understand that this process is completely UN-CONTROLLABLE.

We are attracted to certain physical attributes, behavior traits and characteristics, and when we meet someone who possesses these qualities, we feel attracted to them – and we CANNOT help it.  The chemical reaction in our bodies signals to us that this person is someone who meets our subconscious requirements for a suitable sexual partner.  In our subconscious programming, we feel the chances of us creating the strongest, healthiest offspring are greatest with this person.

Now for men, our instinctual programming is to procreate as much as we can.  Because we can produce offspring whenever we have sex, it is emotionally easier for us than women, to select more than one sexual partner, because the more children we produce, the better it is for the survival of our genes.

We are attracted to women who possess the greatest beauty, because instinctively we believe, the more beautiful the woman, the more attractive our offspring will be.  And if our children are good looking, this increases the likelihood that they will easily find sexual partners, and ensure our genes survive even longer.

Women on the other hand, can only physically produce children every year or so, and usually only about 5-15 children in their lifetime.  So they become much more selective when choosing a sexual partner, to secure the best genes for their offspring.  If a woman makes a bad decision, and becomes pregnant to someone with ‘bad’ genes, then the chances of her genes continuing to strengthen decrease dramatically.

Women select their sexual partners based on certain behavior traits and characteristics.  Women need to see that a man possesses a high social status, high social value, strong social skills and has the strength of character that makes him a strong, powerful and decisive leader.  It is these qualities that matter MORE than physical attributes to women, because it’s these traits that display the true strength of character that ensures the man’s genes are as strong as possible.

Now back to flirting.  When it comes to flirting, most men have NO understanding whatsoever about the different sexual strategies of men and women.  And because of this lack of understanding, most men approach flirting from the wrong angle, and with the wrong frame of mind to successfully become sexual partners with a woman.

Most men think that to flirt successfully with women, you need to pay them lots of attention, compliment them lots, buy them drinks etc.  They TRY to win or buy the approval of a woman, and they think that just because they communicate their sexual interest to her, that is going to be enough to attract her sexually.

This is NOT the case though.  This behavior is NOT what women are instinctively programmed to be attracted to.

Just about EVERY woman is exposed to men who try communicating their sexual interests in them.  Even if a woman is considered ugly, she will still have men who will display sexual interest in her.  There are always going to be men who will try to get sex from ANY woman they can get it from – remember we are programmed to procreate as much as we can.

On the other hand, beautiful women CONSTANTLY have all types of men displaying sexual interest in them, and as a result, they have a much wider choice of men to choose from.  And because they have a very wide choice of suitors, they become extremely selective about who they choose as sexual partners.  Beautiful women ONLY select men who possess the right characteristics that INSTINCTIVELY trigger attraction and lust in them.

This means that men who wish to become sexual partners with beautiful women, need to display the RIGHT type of behavior traits and characteristics for beautiful women to take an interest – especially a sexual interest.

Now, I know many men who MISUNDERSTAND what flirting is, and HOW to flirt – especially with beautiful women.  They think, or worse, they BELIEVE, that merely paying the woman attention by just talking to her, complimenting her and buying her drinks is flirting.  They think that paying the woman extreme attention will MAKE her FEEL attraction and lust for them.  They are TRYING to win HER approval.

The problem with this misunderstanding, is that these guys falsely believe that women are attracted to them just because they get to interact with them, and then become discouraged, maybe even bitter and angry when they find out the women have no interest in them at all.  And you can’t blame the women, it’s not their fault these men misunderstand what triggers attraction.

Here is a quick tip: You MUST behave in a manner that compels beautiful women to TRY and win YOUR approval.  NOT the other way around.  This WILL make you stand out from the throngs of losers TRYING to get sex from these women, and elevate your attractiveness in their eyes, and ultimately, your ability to have sex with them.

It takes knowledge and understanding to be a successful flirt.  If you know WHAT to do, and HOW to do it, then flirting can become extremely enjoyable and rewarding.  You will no longer have to suffer the torment of rejection and ridicule, or worse, the torment of knowing you DON’T HAVE THE BALLS to flirt with women.

Here are 5 important tips to help you become a successful flirt.

  • You MUST display extreme self confidence.  If you aren’t confident in your ability to communicate with women in a playful, relaxed manner, then your chances of flirting successfully are very slim.  As I’ve said many times before on this site, women are instinctively attracted to men who display certain behavior and character traits.  If you possess those traits, then your chances of success are much greater.
  • You MUST have, and BE FUN.  Flirting should be a fun and exciting interaction, that helps build rapport and sexual attraction.  It’s especially hard to flirt effectively, if you are self conscious, or lack confidence in yourself, and your ability to communicate and interact with women on a social level.  You absolutely must be relaxed and confident to have women feel relaxed to be around you.  If they feel ANY discomfort or awkwardness being around you, your chances of becoming sexually intimate are pretty much slim to zero.
  • You MUST behave COCKY and FUNNY.  To be cocky and funny means you behave in a manner that displays your high self esteem and self image, in a humorous, lighthearted way.  It’s the ability to confidently tease and make fun of women.  To be cocky doesn’t mean you behave arrogantly, but rather you behave in a way that confidently states how you feel about and view yourself, while making fun of her in a lighthearted and non-threatening way.  When mixed with humorous, maybe even shocking things that women don’t hear very often, this becomes an intoxicating combination, and makes you seem unique and different.
  • You MUST set the frame that YOU are a valuable prize.  You need to behave in a manner that compels women to try and impress YOU, and perceive YOU as a valuable prize that they need to win – NOT the other way around.  Most women – especially beautiful women – are attracted to men who have high social value in their eyes.  This means that if a woman perceives a man as having an equal or greater value than herself, she will be more likely to FEEL attracted to him.  Too many guys, place women on a pedestal, treat them like queens, shower them with attention, hang on their every word and follow them around like puppies because they are afraid if they let them out of their sights, they will disappear.  This gives the woman the perception that the man values himself lower than her, and as a result, she is NOT attracted to him.
  • You absolutely MUST touch women. What I mean by this, is that you must use appropriate touching to help build comfort and rapport with a woman.  Appropriate touching is when you touch a place on the body in a non-threatening, non-sexual way e.g the back of the hand or the upper arm area when shaking hands, the shoulder area or back of the shoulder/back area to emphasize understanding or comradeship etc.  Touching is a very powerful tool, that can be used to subconsciously ingrain your presence on the mind of the person you touch, and make you highly memorable.  And when it’s done correctly, you can really accelerate the speed in which someone becomes comfortable and relaxed in your presence.  Just think back to the last time someone touched you when you first met them.  How did it make you feel?  Comfortable and relaxed?  I’m sure it did, and even if it didn’t, I’ll bet that their touch made an impression on your mind, and made them unforgettable.  That’s the effect you want when you use touch when flirting with women.

So there is some insight into the different sexual strategies of men and women, and 5 tips that can really help boost your success rates when you’re flirting with women.  Make sure you work on developing the behavior traits and characteristics that women are INSTINCTIVELY attracted to.  Doing so will make your flirting efforts that more potent and powerful.

If you don’t know how to develop those attributes that women find attractive, then I strongly suggest you check out HOW TO BE AN ALPHA MALE by John Alexander.  John’s powerful program will teach everything you need to know about becoming the type of man that women find irresistible, and would do ANYTHING to have in their lives – AND their beds.

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All the best