Approaching Women – Here’s A Method I’ve Used To Meet Countless Women

To start with, I want you to realize that it is possible to meet women ANYWHERE.  Having said that though, while it’s possible to meet women anywhere – even if you are just walking down the street – it’s more probable that you will meet them at a public gathering.

In my opinion, it’s definitely a lot easier at public gatherings – you know they are there for a reason, and more than likely, NOT in a hurry to leave.

Places like pubs, bars, nightclubs, parties, restaurants, cafe’s, stores, malls, outdoor events or get-togethers, are all places you are MOST likely to meet women.  While each of these settings has its own set of challenges, advantages and dis-advantages for meeting and attracting women, your success will ALWAYS depend entirely on YOUR skills and abilities in approach and attraction.

Regardless of what setting you may be in, the fundamentals are ALWAYS the same.  If you can learn and apply these key fundamental skills and methods, then you are more likely to see success.

O.k, so you have seen a woman you like the look of.  You feel the need to meet her and get to know her better.  How do you go about it?  Well here is a method I’ve used on countless occasions and had incredible success rates with.

I’ve found that this method works best if you approach a set of 2 or more women.  Also, don’t be discouraged if the set has men in it.  Just befriend them as well, and the women will be even more impressed with your social skills.  (Women LOVE men that are ‘leaders of men’).

This method is best suited to a social setting, like a bar, lounge or cafe.  Just remember, you are going to be talking, so a loud dance club isn’t an ideal location.

Also, this works equally well if you are either alone or with a friend.  Either way, it doesn’t really matter.  But I’ve found – although if you are just beginning, it may feel a little too intimidating – it’s actually more effective if you are alone.  But only IF you display the confidence, behavior traits and characteristics of an Alpha Male.

First, this needs a small amount of previous preparation, and requires you to have friends who play the game of attraction and seduction as well.  (Shouldn’t be too hard considering we are ALL interested in being more attractive to women.)

All you do, is get a wing-man to text a message to you, stating that he has just found out his girlfriend is cheating on him, and doesn’t know what to do.  He also says he doesn’t want to confront her because he doesn’t want to destroy their relationship.

Send a text back saying that she is already destroying their relationship, and if he doesn’t confront her, then you will, because you will NOT stand idly by while she hurts him.  Then he sends a final message back saying that he appreciates your loyalty but doesn’t want you to cause any drama, and he will sort it out his own way.

Now approach the set, and say;  “Hey guys look, I only have a few spare moments, but I could really use a woman’s opinion, can you help me out?”

Note:  Remember, it is ESSENTIAL, that you ALWAYS display the CORRECT, attractive attitudes and characteristics when approaching. (See 5 Keys to Approaching Women).  Also, by letting the set know that your time is limited, it sub-consciously lets them know, that you are NOT trying to intrude on their time and space, and impose yourself on their group.

Women love to give advice to men, and it is extremely rare that a set of women will refuse to help out a man who has the balls and courage to approach them and ask for help.

Side Note:  If they do refuse to help you , continue to be happy and friendly to them, thank them for their time and confidently walk away.  If there is another set of women close by, approach them and apply the same methods.  It’s important to do this, because it displays to your target group, that your intentions for approaching them stem from a genuine need for help.

This will build social value in the eyes of your target group – as they witness your high level of social skill – and more than likely, they will be more than willing to help you out after you leave the second set of women.

Anyway, back on track.

When they agree to help you, tell them that a friend of yours has just found out that his girlfriend is cheating on him.  Show them the messages on your phone.

Now tell them that you’re really pissed off, and finding it hard to stand by and watch him being dragged through the mud.  Tell them you don’t know whether to follow your instincts and confront the girlfriend about her cheating, or honor your friends wishes.  Ask them what they would do in your situation.

Once they start to talk about the issue, sit there and listen to them for a few moments.  More than likely, they will all chip in and say things together.  Anyway, sooner or later you are going to have to interrupt the flow of conversation for a brief moment to introduce yourself.

All it takes is to simply say;  “What are your names guys?  I’m (Your Name).” Now just carry on with the conversation.

Now it’s important to note, that this conversation starter WON’T instantly make any of these women –  let alone your target woman –  fall for you.  This method is NOT designed for that anyway.  What it does do, is open the set of women in a specific way, that helps them to lower their defenses against your approach.

As you know, ALL women put their guards up if ANY man – unless he is famous, or already has high social proof in their eyes – approaches.  It’s just their natural instincts to protect themselves from the advances of ALL the loser type men that ALWAYS try to score with them.

Now that you’ve opened the set of women, the next stage is to create and build attraction.  This article is already becoming too long, so we will continue to concentrate on the creation and building of attraction in this situation, in another article.

Just remember, that you will have just displayed so many attractive qualities to these women.  By confidently approaching their group, and displaying to them your caring nature and loyalty to your friend, your honor towards his wishes, as well as your attractive Alpha Male attitude and characteristics, they will be absolutely compelled, and more than happy to sit there and share their thoughts and advice with you.

Take full advantage of this valuable opportunity to enter their group, and use this time to create and build attraction.  Stay tuned for the next information packed article.

All the best guys

Baden

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Here’s A Powerful Method To Sexually Arouse A Woman

 
The first step to sexually arousing women, probably isn’t what you thought it would be.  It’s got NOTHING to do with being romantic.  It’s got NOTHING to do with saying sweet things or writing poems.  It’s got NOTHING to do with buying flowers, and it’s definitely got NOTHING to do with buying them drinks.  It’s got NOTHING to do with the way you kiss them, or the way you caress them (these two things happen AFTER you create sexual arousal).  No, most of these things will NOT sexually arouse a women.
 
To create sexual arousal in a woman, you must first PROJECT a SEXUAL PERSONA and STATE OF BEING – in other words, the way you BEHAVE is what matters MOST, not so much what you SAY or DO.  This is what will initially attract women to you in the first place, and start to create sexual arousal in them.
 
Let’s take Colin Farrell, Channing Tatum or Johnny Depp for example. Why do women think these guys are so sexy? Because of the sexual persona they project!
 
These guys OOZE sexual attraction! With their confidence, high awareness of their own sexuality and their powerful sexual state of BEING, they attract and arouse sexual feelings in women by merely being present (whether on-screen or in person). They’re NOT afraid to be sexual towards women (although not sleazy), and this lets the ladies enjoy the delicious sexual feelings that they arouse in them.
 
So how do YOU go about projecting a sexual persona and state of being?
 
It all starts with CONSCIOUS CONTROL over the sexual state that you are projecting, and the NON-VERBAL sexual language that you use.  It’s all about projecting and OOZING sexuality –  relaxed, confident and at complete ease with yourself and your surroundings.  It’s about being completely comfortable and in total control of yourself in ANY social situation.
 
To illustrate, let’s take a quick look at the difference between an average guy and a Suave Man, in say, a bar or club situation.
 
When an average guy walks into a bar, what does he do?
 
He will usually stand in some out of the way place where he will not be noticed.  Typically, he will be slouching (displaying weakness and laziness), holding his drink to his chest (a classic defensive posture) and looking around the room all shifty and wide eyed.  He will usually be mesmerized by the dance floor and be content to just stand there and STARE at all the beautiful women dancing and moving around the bar.  He definitely will NOT approach any of them to initiate an encounter.
 
Women are NOT going to notice him.  He will be ignored by everyone of them, because he is NOT behaving in a sexually attractive way or making an EFFORT to be recognized.  He is behaving in a typically weak social manner.  His social status will be that of a reject and an outcast.  Women are NOT sexually attracted to social rejects and outcasts!
 
Now the typical Suave Man projects a powerful sexual persona and state of being.
 
He is relaxed, confident and dominant.  He stands with a powerful, masculine, upright posture and moves with deliberate, purposeful control.  He smiles at beautiful women (because he is NOT afraid of them), ALWAYS holds eye contact and isn’t the first to break it.  But, he treats ALL women the same regardless of their beauty.  He isn’t mesmerized by the dance floor, and he doesn’t hesitate to approach women or flinch when he does.  He is friendly and popular, and has a HIGH social status.  He IS cool, suave and SEXY.  He KNOWS IT, and women KNOW IT!
 
That’s the difference.  It’s all in the attitude and behavior.  That’s why the average guy struggles to get laid!  The average guy lacks the understanding of WHAT women are “instinctively” attracted to, and WHY.  And, he just doesn’t behave in a manner that projects high social status or sexual attractiveness.
 
Ok, so now that we can see the differences between the two types of man, and why women are either attracted or not, we are now going to go over a powerful method you can use to create incredible sexual arousal.
 
Now, what women find sexually arousing, is a man who can create an atmosphere of SOCIAL and SEXUAL TENSION.  Women like to FEEL their hearts racing.  They LOVE it when a man can make their adrenaline pump, and make them feel like their heads are spinning and their blood is boiling.
 
To do that, we have to create a situation where there is slight tension and discomfort.  But you have to ALWAYS remember to project an aura of complete sexual comfort and confidence.  You have to remain in complete control of your emotions and your body.  If you don’t, then women will just be freaked out by your behavior and you’ll blow your chances.  Remember, women can sense your sexual relaxation – or lack of it.  So it’s vitally important to always be in complete control of yourself at ALL times.
 
Here is the method I’ve used many times with great success.
 
When you see a woman you like – and you’ve been giving and getting good eye contact – approach her with a supremely confident swagger, projecting and oozing sexuality.  Continue to look her in the eyes the whole time.  Don’t worry about her friends, just focus on her.  Without apologizing, invade her personal space, look her directly in the eyes and give her a “I know you think I’m hot” smile.  Pause, lean back and playfully look her body up and down once.  Look back into her eyes with a mischievous grin, and say “Hey.”
 
Because you’re so close to her, and because of your supreme confidence and coolness, her heart and adrenaline will be RACING.  Guaranteed.  And she won’t be able to keep her eyes off you.  Her friends will most likely be giggling or dumb-struck because of the social tension you have just created.  This is extremely sexy to women!
 
Now because you have just created this social tension – something that may never have happened to her before, especially if she is hot, because 99% of men don’t have the balls to be like this to hot women – then she is going to associate her adrenaline dump and heart racing to you.
 
And guess what that association is?  That’s right:  Sexual arousal caused by YOU!
 
It’s your non-verbal communication for projecting a sexual persona and state of being that is appealing to her sub-consciousness, her natural sexual instincts, and making her FEEL sexual attraction for you, and as a result, sexual arousal.
 
The next step, after creating social tension, is to create sexual tension.  To do that, you need to implement the steps to escalating attraction.
 
Introduce yourself, have a chat to her and her group about what brings them out.  Tease them and make fun of them.  Engage them with interesting conversation e.g tell stories about experiences that display your attractive qualities – don’t brag about WHAT you have though, rather, subtly show off your behavioral and emotional traits  through your stories.  Captivate their attention by reading their palms or performing magic tricks.
 
After you have built up comfort, rapport and attraction, turn to your target woman and say to her “When a good song comes on, come and dance with me..”  Just state it too, don’t ask.  After the feelings you have just given her, there is NO WAY she is going to say “no.”
 
Now tell her you’ve gotta get back to your friends, turn around and walk away!
 
That’s right walk away.  Average guys will NOT walk away when things are going so well.  They continue to hang around, and hang around, until the woman finally gets bored and leaves instead.  Because of their insecurities, they think if they go away they will lose her, when in all reality, they have already lost her.
 
Guess what?  This is the REAL reason you NEED to walk away.  Walking away now is THE best thing you can do because doing so creates SEXUAL TENSION.
 
By leaving her, you have just left a huge hole in her mind and reality.  She will now be helpless to think about anything but YOU, and yearn for you to come back and give her those wonderful feelings again.  She will be thinking to herself “How can he just go away and leave me feeling like this?  Is he going to come back?  When will he come back?  If I feel like this towards him, does it mean I like him?  I think I’m sexually attracted to him.  Damn he’s HOT!”
 
After awhile (not too long though), but when you’re ready and when a good song comes on, go back, grab her by the hand and LEAD her to the dance floor.  DON’T ASK, just do it.  Leading her now displays your dominance and alpha maleness.  She will now be even MORE attracted to you, because as we know, women respond sexually to powerful, dominant, alpha males.
 
Dance close.  Let her feel your body up against hers.  Let her feel the warmth of your face against her cheek.  Lightly brush your lips past her ears and neck.  This will drive her crazy with lust.  The oxytocin in her body will be running wild.
 
Dance with her for a few songs, let the tension and lust build up and then break it off again.  Take her back to her friends.  Let things settle in her mind once again.  Make her miss you again.  Let those questions run through her mind again.
 
Next time you go back, it’ll be time to isolate her from her friends so she doesn’t feel like she is being judged.  Being judged by her peers and then being deemed as a slut, is socially damaging to a woman’s reputation, and they will avoid this at all costs.  So isolate her, then continue to turn the heat and tension up.  Keep escalating the encounter until it gets to the stage where she wants to go faster than what you are going.
 
This is the type of tension that is the secret to sexually arousing women.  Giving them great feelings, making them feel alive with powerful emotions, and then taking it away from them.  Make them think and wonder, then go back, give them more great feelings, escalate your encounter to a new, heightened level, then stop.  And on, and on, and on until she can’t take it anymore.
 
Try implementing this method next time you’re out on the town.  Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work for you at first either.  All it means is that your confidence levels are not yet high enough, and you need more practice.
 
I know it’s a daunting task, and the risk of rejection is a hard obstacle to overcome, but honestly, if you really want to be successful with women, you have to do the hard yards.
 
Good luck, and happy hunting.

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Revealed! The Secret to Sexually Arousing Women

 
How would it feel if you could easily, sexually arouse ANY woman?  Would having that power make your life more interesting, rewarding and fulfilling?  Would it feel great to know that you can drive a woman CRAZY with lust – ANYTIME you want?

Of course it would.  What straight man wouldn’t want that power?

I remember when I used to DREAM about having the power to drive a woman crazy with lust.  I would lie in bed at night and fantasize about how I would look at her, talk to her, touch her, kiss her and caress her, and how she would magically lust after me.

I have to admit though, that in reality, I had absolutely NO idea how to ACTUALLY get a woman to feel that sort of lust for me.  I falsely believed what most of us guys have been programmed to believe.  And that is, that a woman’s lust is triggered by a man’s ability to make them feel loved and cared for in a romantic way, and also our ability to provide for them in a financial way.  I thought women’s lust had a direct link to how nice we treat them and how generous we are to them.

Boy was I WRONG! And if you believe this, you’re wrong too!

How many of you can relate to the following situation?  You have a woman alone, she seems to be into you and things are going really well.  But when you go to make your move, she pulls away or gives you the cold shoulder.  Huh???  You were so sure you could feel a spark, some chemistry between the two of you.  But now, she just doesn’t seem to be interested in you in an intimate way.  And the more you try to push things along, the more frigid and uptight she becomes.

Many of us have had these experiences – I’ve definitely had my fair share of these encounters, that’s for sure.  And if you haven’t, then you might have to admit to yourself that the reason you haven’t, is because you don’t have the courage, confidence and skills – YET – to get women alone!  (Just being honest guys, but anyway, that’s beside the point).

Well, before I learned what I know now, every time I had a woman, this is EXACTLY what happened to me!  I remember thinking that either the woman just wasn’t a sexual person, or I would feel like I just wasn’t her type (even though she was alone with me?!?).

WRONG once again.

She is human!  Which means she IS sexual! And she HAD decided to be alone with me, which is indication enough that she is interested in taking things further.  What had happened, was that I hadn’t built up enough SEXUAL TENSION, and I had lost control of the situation by NOT being dominant enough.

What I have learned from my study and experiences of sexual attraction, is that women’s lust is actually triggered by something far more primal than romantic notions.  You see, women are subconsciously programmed to respond sexually to a dominant, powerful, masculine man, an alpha male. A man who can trigger feelings of lust and desire in them.

In the past, I failed because I didn’t behave in a powerful, dominant manner, and I never built up enough sexual tension, if any.  I behaved in a weak, timid and insecure manner.  What I should have done, was display strong masculinity, TAKE CONTROL by being dominant and then gradually build sexual tension.  I should have increased the tension, then taken a step back, then increased it again a little further, then stepped back, then increased again, and on and on until the woman just couldn’t stand it any longer.

Most guys fail at the intimacy stage of seduction because they do one of these following two things:  Either they are like I was, and fail to act in time, giving the woman the impression that they’re too weak and timid to make a move. Or, they move too fast, without building enough sexual tension first.  These behaviour traits make the woman FEEL uncomfortable and THINK about her decisions and start to question her actions. 

Women are emotional creatures – and lust is an emotion – so once a woman starts using her logical mind to make decisions, instead of using her emotions to guide her, she no longer feels lust and your chances are pretty much down the drain.

To understand how to sexually arouse women, first we need to understand the differences between men and women when it comes to sexual arousal.

As you know, us men get turned on by VISUAL STIMULATION.  It happens pretty fast, and it doesn’t take much for us to be in the mood. It could be as simple as catching a glimpse of undie gusset or a portion of exposed breast to give us the “schaaawing” feeling in our pants! Once intimacy starts, we like to get to the heart of the matter straight away.  So generally, we rush into the initiation and act of sex.  We like to get straight down to the nitty gritty and get it on as fast as we can.  It’s a linear act for us, get to the goal as fast as possible.

Women on the other hand, get turned on by EMOTIONAL STIMULATION. Their lust is triggered by feelings of tension, namely SEXUAL TENSION.  They LOVE to feel anticipation. They love the feeling of not knowing what or when something is going to happen.  They love to feel sexual tension that builds GRADUALLY.  It’s a wave-like experience for them.  They love to feel it build up, then subside, and build up all over again … And again … And again …  That’s what gets their hormones raging and their blood boiling and THAT is why women are ALWAYS complaining that men don’t take things SLOW enough!

So to sexually arouse women, we need to take things SLOOOOW. Let the experience drag out and the sexual tension build up gradually.  It’s a two steps forward, one step back process.  This is the key to building immense, irresistible sexual attraction and longing. 

We also need to continue to keep things RELAXED and PLAYFUL.  Stop treating intimacy with so much seriousness.  It’s meant to be FUN remember, not a rushed, anxiety filled, stressful situation!

Build tension by taking things slow, going forward, then back, relaxing and carrying on with what you were doing like nothing has happened, then forward and back again.  You kiss her, then stop and continue like nothing has happened.  Then next time you kiss her, kiss for longer and also start to caress her neck, then stop and relax like nothing has happened.  Then kiss her again for longer and more passionately, caressing even further, then stop.

You see the pattern?  Start and stop.  Forward and back.  Each time you begin again, take things a little bit further than the last time.

This is how to sexually arouse a woman.  You want to keep building the sexual tension until she is WANTING to take things further and further, and wanting to do it faster than you’re going.  Keep it playful and fun.  Take your time, enjoy the experience of being intimate and before long, you will both be rolling around getting all hot and sweaty.

So this is the Secret to Sexually Arousing Women.  Now that you know the secret, next time we will focus on some specific methods you can use to build sexual tension and start having women going crazy with lust for you.

All the best with your efforts.  Till next time.

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