How To Get Women To Approach You

How To Get Women To Approach YOU
By Thundercat ArtOfApproaching.com

I think you’re really going to like this article, because I’m going
to share a little trick with you that I’ve developed that really
makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because
of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved.

Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet
a woman?

“Am I her type?”
“Does she have a boyfriend?”
“Will she find me attractive?”
“Maybe she’s too busy to meet anyone.”
“Will she be receptive to me talking to her?”

I’m sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your
mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it’s because of one
thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don’t know how the girl you want to approach is going to
respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I’m
going to share with you, you’ll never have to worry about a
negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it’s a 100%
fear free tactic.

Ready for it? Good, because here it comes…

***The Eye Contact Opener***

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny
happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become
COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to
women, you can use eye contact to find out if she’s open to meeting
you. In fact, in a way, she’ll be opening YOU!

So here’s what you do…

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on
her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she’s not looking
at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to
keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we
all do. Eventually, the woman you’re locking onto will look around
to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and
you’ll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She’s OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If
she doesn’t, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say “Hi!” And if she responds,
you’re in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery
stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work
just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she
can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say “Hi!” and
then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock
your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you’ll
be surprised by the results.

And if you’re looking for even more tactics and techniques that are
proven to work to help you meet tons of women, check out my book
The Art of Approaching! There is no other book out there that
focuses on nothing BUT how to overcome your fears and meet women.
Check it out right now by clicking below:

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With the help of my book, you won’t have to use the Eye Contact
Opener! You’ll simply be able to walk up to any woman you want and
meet her right away.

Wishing you success with women,

Thundercat

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Picking Up Women: How to Make Easy, Fun Conversation That Leads to Attraction & Sexual Chemistry

There are two main ways in which we communicate with others: non-verbal communication and vocal/verbal communication. You probably already know a little about the non-verbal side of things, such as the types of body language that silently signal someone’s nervous, excited or angry. But how about the more obvious but actually less frequently discussed topic of verbal communication: how what we say and how we say it impacts on our lives and goals?

That’s the subject we’re going to look at today.  Except we’re going to a get a little more specific and delve into how a guy can make easy, fun conversation with a woman, that helps lead to attraction and sexual chemistry between the two of you.

Let’s first get a grasp on a few pieces of background information. First off, how do most men make conversation with a  woman they’re attracted to? What do they do right, wrong or completely miss out from their talks with the opposite sex? The best way to answer these questions is simply to identify the mistakes the majority of men out there make – things every guy, for whatever reason, chooses to do when talking to a girl, that hinder – rather than help – his chances of hooking up with her.

Mistake #1: ASKING TOO MANY QUESTIONS. Lots of men worry that when they start talking to a girl, she won’t say much back. This outcome, standing there – suffering an awkward, embarrassing silence – is so much of a concern that they ask the girl question after question to avoid it. The reason they bombard her with questions is because they think that the best way of getting and keeping the girl talking is by giving her more and more opportunities to say something, no matter what the topic happens to be. Unfortunately, doing this sends out a very negative message. It actually shows that you’re nervous and would prefer her to do most of the talking, which often turns the woman off completely.

Mistake #2: NEVER SHUTTING UP. This is the opposite scenario to the one above, but happens for the same reason. Some men, scared that the girl they’re talking to will up and leave any second, choose to talk endlessly in an effort to keep their attention. Again, this is immediately obvious as a sign of social inexperience and nervousness.

Mistake #3: BORING HER TO DEATH. It’s not easy talking to a girl who’s beautiful, sexy and usually practically unattainable. So when a guy gets chatting to a girl he really likes, who’s hot and confident, he doesn’t want to mess it up – after all, it might not happen again for ages! So, in an attempt to limit the chance of saying something that might ruin the interaction and thus his chances with her, he subconsciously restricts the topics of conversation he brings up. He talks about work, the weather, sports, current affairs, perhaps bombards her with a few questions on those subjects…and generally doesn’t push the boat out much.

Okay, so they’re 3 of the worst mistakes a guy can make when talking to a girl he likes. So let’s flip the coin and look at what he SHOULD be doing.

Objective #1: PROGRESSIVE QUESTIONING. Choose what questions you ask the girl wisely. You don’t want to throw too many her way too quickly. If you do, you give her too much control over the conversation and don’t provide her with a challenge. So, use progressive questioning – ask her questions that she MUST give a detailed response to. Avoid Yes/No questions and instead quiz her on things that require emotion-packed responses. “Do you come her often?” is a terrible question. “What do you think this place could do to make it feel more lively and fun?” is much better, as it not only requires a more detailed reply than a simple “Yes” or “No,” it also probes the girl on what makes her feel good.

Objective #2: Don’t be afraid to let short pauses punctuate your conversation with a girl. Many men panic when they hear a silence and jump in with another question or statement to fill it. Don’t make the same mistake. A confident, dominant guy – the kind of man women love – isn’t afraid of little pauses, because they’re natural and harmless. He simply, waits a second or two, sips his drink, smiles and goes with the flow.

Objective #3: It’s okay to use common topics of conversation when you first get talking to a girl. But move away from the mundane stuff as quickly as you can and instead choose to tell engaging stories. Describe a great holiday you had, an amazing concert you recently went to…make it positive and interesting and you engage the girl’s emotions and make her want to tell YOU about her own good times. When this happens, instant rapport and sexual chemistry is born.

Rachel Davis is the author of Conversation-King, a guide that teaches men how to attract and seduce women by mastering the art of verbal communication.

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Revealed! The Secret to Sexually Arousing Women

 
How would it feel if you could easily, sexually arouse ANY woman?  Would having that power make your life more interesting, rewarding and fulfilling?  Would it feel great to know that you can drive a woman CRAZY with lust – ANYTIME you want?

Of course it would.  What straight man wouldn’t want that power?

I remember when I used to DREAM about having the power to drive a woman crazy with lust.  I would lie in bed at night and fantasize about how I would look at her, talk to her, touch her, kiss her and caress her, and how she would magically lust after me.

I have to admit though, that in reality, I had absolutely NO idea how to ACTUALLY get a woman to feel that sort of lust for me.  I falsely believed what most of us guys have been programmed to believe.  And that is, that a woman’s lust is triggered by a man’s ability to make them feel loved and cared for in a romantic way, and also our ability to provide for them in a financial way.  I thought women’s lust had a direct link to how nice we treat them and how generous we are to them.

Boy was I WRONG! And if you believe this, you’re wrong too!

How many of you can relate to the following situation?  You have a woman alone, she seems to be into you and things are going really well.  But when you go to make your move, she pulls away or gives you the cold shoulder.  Huh???  You were so sure you could feel a spark, some chemistry between the two of you.  But now, she just doesn’t seem to be interested in you in an intimate way.  And the more you try to push things along, the more frigid and uptight she becomes.

Many of us have had these experiences – I’ve definitely had my fair share of these encounters, that’s for sure.  And if you haven’t, then you might have to admit to yourself that the reason you haven’t, is because you don’t have the courage, confidence and skills – YET – to get women alone!  (Just being honest guys, but anyway, that’s beside the point).

Well, before I learned what I know now, every time I had a woman, this is EXACTLY what happened to me!  I remember thinking that either the woman just wasn’t a sexual person, or I would feel like I just wasn’t her type (even though she was alone with me?!?).

WRONG once again.

She is human!  Which means she IS sexual! And she HAD decided to be alone with me, which is indication enough that she is interested in taking things further.  What had happened, was that I hadn’t built up enough SEXUAL TENSION, and I had lost control of the situation by NOT being dominant enough.

What I have learned from my study and experiences of sexual attraction, is that women’s lust is actually triggered by something far more primal than romantic notions.  You see, women are subconsciously programmed to respond sexually to a dominant, powerful, masculine man, an alpha male. A man who can trigger feelings of lust and desire in them.

In the past, I failed because I didn’t behave in a powerful, dominant manner, and I never built up enough sexual tension, if any.  I behaved in a weak, timid and insecure manner.  What I should have done, was display strong masculinity, TAKE CONTROL by being dominant and then gradually build sexual tension.  I should have increased the tension, then taken a step back, then increased it again a little further, then stepped back, then increased again, and on and on until the woman just couldn’t stand it any longer.

Most guys fail at the intimacy stage of seduction because they do one of these following two things:  Either they are like I was, and fail to act in time, giving the woman the impression that they’re too weak and timid to make a move. Or, they move too fast, without building enough sexual tension first.  These behaviour traits make the woman FEEL uncomfortable and THINK about her decisions and start to question her actions. 

Women are emotional creatures – and lust is an emotion – so once a woman starts using her logical mind to make decisions, instead of using her emotions to guide her, she no longer feels lust and your chances are pretty much down the drain.

To understand how to sexually arouse women, first we need to understand the differences between men and women when it comes to sexual arousal.

As you know, us men get turned on by VISUAL STIMULATION.  It happens pretty fast, and it doesn’t take much for us to be in the mood. It could be as simple as catching a glimpse of undie gusset or a portion of exposed breast to give us the “schaaawing” feeling in our pants! Once intimacy starts, we like to get to the heart of the matter straight away.  So generally, we rush into the initiation and act of sex.  We like to get straight down to the nitty gritty and get it on as fast as we can.  It’s a linear act for us, get to the goal as fast as possible.

Women on the other hand, get turned on by EMOTIONAL STIMULATION. Their lust is triggered by feelings of tension, namely SEXUAL TENSION.  They LOVE to feel anticipation. They love the feeling of not knowing what or when something is going to happen.  They love to feel sexual tension that builds GRADUALLY.  It’s a wave-like experience for them.  They love to feel it build up, then subside, and build up all over again … And again … And again …  That’s what gets their hormones raging and their blood boiling and THAT is why women are ALWAYS complaining that men don’t take things SLOW enough!

So to sexually arouse women, we need to take things SLOOOOW. Let the experience drag out and the sexual tension build up gradually.  It’s a two steps forward, one step back process.  This is the key to building immense, irresistible sexual attraction and longing. 

We also need to continue to keep things RELAXED and PLAYFUL.  Stop treating intimacy with so much seriousness.  It’s meant to be FUN remember, not a rushed, anxiety filled, stressful situation!

Build tension by taking things slow, going forward, then back, relaxing and carrying on with what you were doing like nothing has happened, then forward and back again.  You kiss her, then stop and continue like nothing has happened.  Then next time you kiss her, kiss for longer and also start to caress her neck, then stop and relax like nothing has happened.  Then kiss her again for longer and more passionately, caressing even further, then stop.

You see the pattern?  Start and stop.  Forward and back.  Each time you begin again, take things a little bit further than the last time.

This is how to sexually arouse a woman.  You want to keep building the sexual tension until she is WANTING to take things further and further, and wanting to do it faster than you’re going.  Keep it playful and fun.  Take your time, enjoy the experience of being intimate and before long, you will both be rolling around getting all hot and sweaty.

So this is the Secret to Sexually Arousing Women.  Now that you know the secret, next time we will focus on some specific methods you can use to build sexual tension and start having women going crazy with lust for you.

All the best with your efforts.  Till next time.

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